. He tells me that he loves me and cant imagine being without me,but when i am with him he doesnt' let me out of his sight then blames me when he hits me that i have done something wrong. to excuse himself. what happened was i too honest when we were friends for him to respect me, I have a very high sex drive, which seems to bother him , now that he cares.
2007-02-07 20:59:01 · 13 answers · asked by whorenomore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I presume we are talking about a gay relationship here but whatever else it is, it is also abusive and sounds as though it has more to do with control than anything else. I would leave him - there is no trust or respect here.
2007-02-07 21:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship now. The only time a guy has the right to hit you is when you have been beating the crap out of him. I'm assuming you are not doing this, so he has no right to hit you. Also, why would you want to be with this guy if he doesn't respect you? Whether you have a high sex drive or not, is no reason to disrespect you to the point of physical violence. Also, the fact that he won't let you out of his sight is a control issue and part of the violence he is subjecting you to. Does he keep you from seeing your friends or family? This is a tactic abusers use so you will have no one to turn to when the abuse gets really bad. They want to make sure you will have no where to go the next time they beat you and that you will have no one to corroborrate that you were beaten should you decide to file charges one day. Is he one of these guys that everyone thinks is a saint, but then he comes back and hits you because you put the chair under the table wrong? You say he says he loves you. If he loved you, he wouldn't hit you. What he loves is that he can control what you think and what you do through his emotional and physical abuse. The more you give in and believe what he says and does to you the more power you are giving him. How much abuse are you willing to take? Enough to put you in your grave? Because it can, and often does get worse. The first time you let him get away with hitting you, you told him that was how you deserved to be treated. You deserve better. You should also see about getting therapy as it seems you have low self-esteem to let him do this to you. If you are afraid he will hurt you if you try to leave, talk to someone from your local battered women's shelter. They can help you come up with an exit stratedgy to get out of this relationship. You are worth more than this. Please try to see that.
2007-02-08 05:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Laoshu Laoshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the hel outta there as fast as you can, abusive relationships do not get better, only worse. If he can't take responsibility for his actions and blames you there is no hope for him. A real man doesn't hit thier women and an abusive man don't change. I have known several women who have been in abusive relationships and I have seen more than one of them killed by the "man" they loved. Please before this gets too much further out of hand have him arrested. Think of it this way he needs to go to jail and learn that women aren't punching bags and even if you just leave him, without some form of conciquence he will find another girl to beat so please send him to jail and get outta there. Also please remember that no matter what he tells you none of that is your fault, nobody deserves to be beaten by the one they love.
2007-02-08 05:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by faern2877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is abusing you . GET OUT . have his *** locked up ,it will get worse he knows of you high drive ,and does not ,and will never trust you out of his sight, there for he does not love you .He sounds like he is obsessed, You are in a lot of danger being in that situation Leave him A.S.A.P he needs to be locked up he will get help in there but you need to leave before he makes you another statistic( as in dead)
2007-02-08 05:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that he already knows too much about you from the exprience that you were together. That is why that he is reacting when he come across to your moves when you do some thing. Though he loves you there is some thing which bothers him. You have to assure him and confront him that now you are only his. Tell him that you LOVE him and do not want to have any relationship with any other body. Take care of him.......................................
2007-02-08 05:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him....Since u have a high sex drive u are a dream girl for lot a guys...
Choose a right partner who treats u well...
2007-02-08 05:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems he is more of possesive for & respective in relation with you, so he is annoyed as he can't show his feelings maybe fearing you'll get hurt.he really is more interested in friendly rather sex.
2007-02-08 05:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by j.lo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the question?
2007-02-08 05:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by butty-real-tiuos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh leave u dont deserve that
ya man up above time to run NOT WALK
2007-02-08 05:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it time for you go because he doesnt love he shd nt be hitting u
2007-02-08 05:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by judy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋