What if hes a good man,responsible,hardworking.Would u leave him because you dont enjoy sex with him or not compatible in that matter ?
2007-02-07 20:47:27 · 21 answers · asked by rivers&dreams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personally i would rather have a responsible, reliable, good man they are too hard to find!
2007-02-07 20:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See sex plays an important part in a marriage but still considering marriage as a life long affair which is much, much longer than the sex life leaving a husband only on that count alone does not really justify it. First both of you consult a sexologist and if still the problem persist both of you talk it over and then you can take a final decsion. All the best.
2007-02-07 21:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't have a "responsibility to stay" if you have children. You have to do what is best for the children yes, but if that is staying in a marriage you are not happy in, then you are doing them no favors at all! I know because my mother stayed when she really shouldn't have. She finally left my father when I was 14 and my sister was 11. My sister took it the hardest, but I was more relieved than anything.
I say, if you are not happy, then you need to leave. You are not doing him or yourself or anyone else any favors by staying if you are not going to be happy. Before you consider leaving though, I would try to get him to try new stuff. Visit a sex shop and buy some lotions or some sexy lingerie or something.
2007-02-07 20:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by lexus 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
heck ya!!!! R U kidding, thats like one of the most important things in a relationship. I've had men that havent had a clue, then there have been a couple where u just dont forget ;) Really, u don't! Thats the type of guy that fufills u, in every way, feel me? I think you have to be compatible too, if he's too small or u just have had to many big men and have been torn apart..lol :) then u need a big guy, ya know what I mean, so either go back to one of those men or find another. Sorry to sound shallow but its kinda like guys who dont like flat chests. I dunno know, I didnt mean to sand mean, thats fine if u dont have a chest who cares right, well some shallow guys do. But u have to wonder do those men ever think about wanted bigger ones, bet they do, same goes for women, expecially if u can't please her.
2007-02-07 21:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ashy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your vows consist of I promise to love you during erection ,and through the limp boring times.......then yes ....If not ,and he is such a great guy why not find a way to make it work why go through the horror of divorce court . tell him what you want you leave a responsible hard working great guy because it don't feel good you will end up with a "more compatible " thrill from an irresponsible, lazy good for nuthin
2007-02-07 21:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good man is hard to find. If your the one not enjoying the sex, it's up to you to spice it up. What if it were the other way around? You would be crushed if your husband left you because the sex wasn't good. When my husband and I, of 20 years, fell into a slump, we bought a big box of assorted adult toys. It helped. Are you ready to take care of yourself? There must be someone your either messing with or want to mess with. Is he going to take care of you forever? Sex with anyone dies down after awhile. Good luck.
2007-02-07 20:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Baw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, if i decided to marry him, then there was a good reason why i even said i do.
not being compatible sexually can be rectified through sex therapy, initiative, communication, &understanding.
I wouldnt throw in the towel on my sex life until i have exercised all my options.
2007-02-07 20:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After you saying how great he is... I can't believe you would leave him because the sex isn't good...... oh wait ... yeah I do ... you're a female............. Men are simple minded dear.... if you want the sex to be better then show him what you like ........ help him improve.... don't consider leaving him.... when you took those vows it was for better or worst....... too many people forget that in this age of lust and that probably explains why the divorce rate is so high.
2007-02-07 20:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You've really got to think this one through. Personally, i wouldn't. You're with your husband because you love him. If the sex isn't working than just find ways to work around it. Figure out new things that neither of you have tried but both of you end up liking. Don't give up just yet, give it some time. Have fun working new things out.
2007-02-07 20:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by bricriu2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
l think that you shd nt leave him because of that talk 2 him or go see a counseller , you might leave him then find the one who is compatible bt doesnt have all the qualities ur looking 4. so l wis u all the best. dnt make any hesty decisions because u might regret it for the rest of your life.
2007-02-07 20:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by judy m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not an issue in a marriage if it is good or if both parties are happy with the way it is.If it is bad or one person is not happy then it becomes a major issue. I would not stay in a marriage that did not fulfil me. You only get one shot at life so don't waste it. You will end up resenting each other in the long run anyway.
2007-02-07 20:54:23 · answer #11 · answered by noddy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋