Does anyone else feel obligations to women are a thing of the past?

Question

And i mean this in terms of dating rituals and such. No I don't mean holding doors open and trivial things like that. I mean, whoever gets to the door first should obviously hold it open for whomever is behind. I mean, when at a bar, why should i be obligated to buy women drinks for attention. Why should i be obligated to pay for dinner and a movie on a date. Why should i have to do so many things women don't have to do? in an age of so called gender equality, with about 50% of women living single and in their own home... why should the man have to take on the extra burdens in the dating world and such. Hmmmmm????


Yes I'm single, no I'm not lonely and miserable, yes i go out with women, no i don't only want sex.

Answer 1

if the women you date are how you described, maybe you're just dating the wrong types of women. respectable women don't think men are obligated to buy them drinks. i don't ever let a guy i don't know buy me drinks. and if i do know him, i always get the next round.

start looking into dating quality girls who aren't like what you're used to. they're out there for sure.

Answer 2

Yes, I agree. I think the rituals are outdated indeed. They were created a century or two back when women had little or no earning power and could not afford to pay their shares. Also women dressed in clumsy, elaborate outfits then when they went out, both of their hands were busy holding up their skirts off the floor so that the men had to help open the doors etc...

However, as long as our modern women and most of society at large still hang on to those outdated rituals, I am going oblige and do the same so I wouldn't be accused of being un-chivalrous. Whether you "don't only want sex" or not; if you didn't play the game, you wouldn't get any for sure!

Answer 3

No I don't feel that way at all, I also don't think of those things as obligations, I am happy to pick up the tab when I go out, and such. To me those kinda things are a small price to pay for the kinds of things a great relationship can bring. Sure it would be nice to have a girl do all of that but the I would feel guilty because I believe thats my responsibility. Hell I've been married for almost 11 years and I still refuse to let my wife buy dinner when we go out.

Answer 4

If you ask a woman out on a date then you should expect to pick up the tab. Any dates that follow should be shared I think. If a guy took me to dinner then I would pay the tip and the movie tickets. I don't want to feel like I owe him anything so if I pay my share we can just have a good time. We feel awkward asking to pay sometimes because guys can be offended. You could always ask if she would prefer to split the bill right from the start.

Answer 5

Nope. While there are some liberated women out there, most are still pretty conventional. Look around here some and you'll find that most are still unwilling to even call a guy.

That's not to say that you should object if a woman chooses to pick up the tab. I think that's cool. It's just not the norm.

If you really don't like it, you don't have to play. Otherwise, it's just the reality that we're in.

Answer 6

Sound to me like you're having relationship complications, or perchance complications inclusive of your boyfriend commonly what do not unavoidably have something to do with the children he already has. You grew up devoid of a dad and that i doubt you may choose his youthful ones to flow via an same element. I do believe you although that it should not be you who helps them and that he first desires to shield you and your children (if any) earlier the others. on the different hand he did have those youthful ones so he desires to take accountability for them. My wager is you'll believe that. and that i imagine that is the position the area is, he would not take accountability in this element of this existence. If he would not like his workmates he in basic terms resigns and shall we others help him. that is not acceptable and that is something that ought to change. And if he won't be able to change that area for inspite of reason you want to opt for. Will you nevertheless help him (financially) or will you're saying that's sufficient and go away because of it. So possibly you should have a not uncomplicated seem at your relationship, study it to what you comprehend you deserve, the way you want issues to be and discover out what's significant to you. once you've were given this sparkling for your self you want to debate this inclusive of your boyfriend and word which factors he's prepared to position in extra attempt to lead them to artwork. And interior the shape he's not prepared to make adjustments you want to imagine about staying or leaving. wish this helps.

Answer 7

Yeah women want the best of both worlds, they think because they bat and eye at you, you are just going to immediately become mentally retarded for her and get out the checkbook. Chicks are a dime a dozen, why should you care about all that crap about buying her drinks and letting her try to manipulate you with her "girl power". That is BS.

Answer 8

Obviously chivalry has died in your life. These so called obligations are not obligations at all, they are just doing the right thing. I suppose if it doesn't bother you to be a cheapskate, and mannerless when it comes to opening doors and seating your woman at the table that's fine for you. Womens liberation does not mean women don't want to be treated special, everyone likes to be treated special. If you're going out with a woman who gets upset over you being polite and doing things for her, you're wasting time that could be spent with someone who appreciates a real man.

Answer 9

Well Bud (Buddy for short) There's someone out there for all of us, And I say that to say this "Good luck". Unless shes used to being treated like crap you're gonna do some or all of those things if you wanna nab that special gal one day. But don't blame me, Blame yo Pappy and his Pappy before him. Heck while your at it blame all the men before us who wanted a little booty (tail, @ss, etc.) and started treating these fine women of ours like the women they are. Lets face it none of us know what kind of woman or man for that matter we will end up being, But why not put our best forward and hope for exactly that, The best...

Answer 10

If you ask the question to your ownself, then first think why are you dating then? Don't you know that females will always take the advantage whenever needed and will start weeping when it's her turn to spend or shoulder the responsibilities? ( I am talking about general practice and not all girls)