he is purposing on Valentines im pretty sure when i go to Tennessee to see him!!we are dicussing gettin married...and he was wantin to get married in a year or so when he gets back from Iraq..But he called me the other ngith sayin he was coming home on a leave in 4 mth`s and wants to get married..Wat are ur opions??
2007-02-07 20:30:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
If you plan to get married anyway, I would do it before he leaves. The military doesnt give a rip about girlfriends, but spouses are treated much differently. There are benefits of being a spouse, including housing, insurance, and some extra pay while he is deployed. The Army does actually try to take care of the families, much better than any other employer, but the mission does come first. Just be prepared for what you will have to put up with being married to a soldier. But if you love him, he loves you, then GO FOR IT! Best!!
2007-02-08 02:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends. This is how I see it. If you are going to marry him, it would be a poor decision to wait, seeing how he is going to Iraq.
If he is armor or infantry or will be anywhere off of the base, then he has a relatively high risk of dying or getting maimed.
Should he die without being married, his life insurance policy money is going to his Mom, not you. So there is some upside to marrying him sooner rather than later. The downside to marrying him before his deployments have ended is that if he loses a limb, or comes back depressed or experiencing PTSD, he is yours to take care of, til death do you part.
The other downside is that you will have sacrificed some of your freedom for his commitment and resources, but then he might be deployed for two thirds of the next four to six years, and thus you must ask yourself if that is a deal you are comfortable making...and while waiting and seeing might seem appealing, it would probably sabotage the relationship.
If you love him, want to marry him and you are sure you can handle his extended absences, than I advise you to say 'Yes'.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 21:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by G 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Does it really matter when you marry him? If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, you could marry him before or after and it wouldn't make a difference.
I find it strange when people come to Yahoo Answers to ask whether they should get married or not. If you have to ask us if you should, I would say NO! You are not ready to make that kind of decision on your own, then you are definitely not ready to be married.
My husband is also in the Army and he deployed in October. We married in July. When I talked to my mom about getting married, she asked me if it would be a better idea if I wait until he gets back from Iraq in case he gets killed or suffers some kind of serious and/or disabling injury. I told her that it doesn't matter when I marry him because I love him more than life itself and he could come back in any way, shape, or form and I would never leave him and I would love him just the same.
If you have found the right one, go for it. If you have any doubts I would strongly suggest not getting married. Good luck!
2007-02-07 21:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by His Angel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get married before if your already going to do it. He will get a lot more money if you do it before like money for your rent and separation pay and whatnot but remember to get a power of attorney so that you have access for bills and whatnot if you are marrying him already then before is such a better idea
2007-02-11 13:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thinking maybe you should put him off, in case he gets killed, and maybe you're stuck with his child? Or seriously injured and you're stuck with him? For goodness' sake, do you love him or not? That's all that matters. If you love him, marry him. Someone can get killed or injured just going about ordinary life, you can't live in fear all the time, it just isn't practical. Get on with your life!
2007-02-07 20:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sangmo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would advice my dear sister,to wait until your hunk comes back home from iraq,what's need the of marrying now and still he will go back to iraq leaving you behind again alone as before your married
2007-02-07 20:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Abdikadir M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm.. it's all up to you..
why don't just let him go to iraq first before settling down. i mean, let him do what he has to do. you have all the time in the world whe he gets back, right? use the time when you're apart to finish your own things. don't be in a rush.
goodluck..
2007-02-07 20:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋