I'm 21 now. I think it's my biological clock ticking. With Valentine's day looming near, it just reminds that I may never find the one or even anyone. I have never dated anyone seriously. I am pretty good looking and in college. I have been asked out in college but I don't feel in the least attracted to them. Regret now because I should have tried it out with them.
I don't know what I am asking here but I am just so scared now that I will be alone all my life. I am too tired and busy to go out and meet new people. I am trying to get over a crush whom I know will never be together with me and this is hard.
2007-02-07 20:10:58 · 14 answers · asked by bendecida 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at 21, you still have your whole life ahead of you.. you are just getting started!! Relax, the right guy will come your way soon.. Make yourself approachable(but not overly so)..don't be too pushy or eager - men likes to chase, and not being chased!!
There is love in this air this seasoin and it might just be when your Mr Right will come waltzing by!
2007-02-07 20:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by sweetDove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first--school is top priority--cannot mix it with a social or love life--something will eventually suffer--not enough time in the day for all this. Study hard, date for some light , stress relieving fun. You will meet people when you get out into the world---be glad you don't have someone who may keep you from the all important studies that require all your attention NOW. Everyone wonders what you do---you are not alone.Smile, stand tall, study hard and have a nice life---Happy Valentines Day to you---you sound like a very nice person.
2007-02-07 20:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make time for a social life, it will re energize you and relieve some of the stress from your busy life.
Don't dwell on past issues.Go forward, go out and meet new people, there are many places to meet people, not necessarily clubbing or bars.
You will find someone, but u have to put some effort into developing a social life , after all, she will not just come knocking on your door.Move on with your life, make time for fun, take up a hobby, where you will meet people like Golf< tennis, Church, any setting that allows you to meet new people and let go of the past.
2007-02-07 20:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by moeeeeus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand very good how you feel. I am 23 and I never had a serious relationship because all the guys asking me out are not what I want. Recently I changed my looks I start going out with different people more mature and the situation changed, I spend my time with mature people not with people with my same age and things are completely different Try this and you will never regret
2007-02-07 20:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Helena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw cheer up! you're young and sound like you've got a lot going for you....the right thing will come along when it's supposed to. you say you don't have a lot of time for dating, but still you've got people asking you out--why not go for it? as long as they aren't creepy, have fun dating different types of people and doing things out of your comfort zone. maybe once your occupied with having so much fun the right person will come along.
ps....the "biological clock" thing (not the scientific theory) is a hoax made up to make people feel bad if they haven't married/had a kid by society's timeframe. do what you want and when those things are supposed to happen, they will!
2007-02-07 20:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by obliviona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up hope. I was once in your shoes and thought I would never find anyone to spend my life with. I met my husband when I was 23 and we've been married now for almost 11 years. It will happen for you. 21 is still young and I believe you will find a good man.
2007-02-07 20:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be alone all your life, and being alone isn't awful, I've been single a long time and I love it, I have lots of married friends and friends in relationships who are far less happy than I.
You are young. Don't worry about finding someone, just work on your life and your interests and everything will fall into place. Really, it will.
2007-02-07 20:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief. You're still VERY young.
Worry not. That makes you less attractive. Make the time to go out and meet people.
2007-02-07 20:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont have so many negative apprehensions before really giving it a try.its never too late! theres always a beginning..and who knows this might be the best time for u as u really feel the need of having someone by ur side.good luck and great going
2007-02-07 20:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Grief darlin! get a grip. You haven't even begun. You've got a good ten years before you even need to look. Relax, have fun. It'll all be over too soon.
2007-02-07 20:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋