The best and most gental way to let someone down?

Question

ok, my girl and i have been dating for 4 months and she is madly in love with me and at first i loved her too, but my feelings died she is a great girl and i love her to death but i just dont see us working out i live so far away now (just moved 2 weeks ago) and she cant come and see me for many resones none are her fault and i am so busy i rarely get a chance to see her i can not do it face to face i would like to but like i said i never!!!! get to see her and i cant do it over the phone because she dont have one the only way i can contact her is while she is at work! I want to let her down gently so we can still be friends but hard enough to know that i am seriously done what do i say please help??!!

Answer 1

She does deserve a face to face, so if possible make the time to break it off with her in person. I think she would appreciate your honesty about how you feel. The sooner the better, so she can move on and so can you. Of course there will be hurt feelings, there is no getting around that, but it's better to get it over with and not string it along anymore. Who knows maybe since you aren't avialable toher she may be having the same feelings.

Answer 2

Well i know that you dont have much time to see her, but this is something that really needs to be done in person. Phone just hurts, and any other way means that you arent man enough or so we think. Ne ways it is better for you to tell you that things arent working now, then to wait any longer. Please do it before Valentines day, dont wait until it comes. It will only hurt worse. Ne ways well you just need to tell her that she is a great girl, but the feelings just arent there anymore. Tell her that you arent the right guy for her now, but she will find an amazing guy to be with in the future. Tell her that you are just holding her back from true love and happiness. Ne ways well i hope this helps, ~Jes

Answer 3

Tell her the truth. She might not take it well in the beginning. But at least you've been a gentleman. Hopefully, she can get over you soon and by then you two might be able to become friends again (this might take plenty of time, since you said, she is still madly in love with you). Its not fair to keep her in a relationship , when you no longer have feelings for her.

Answer 4

Unfortunatly there is no easy and gental way you can let someone down what ever you say or do it will hurt her. Since you are both seperated by distance and you don't see that much of each other it wont be long until she decides for herself that the relationship wont last because eventually both of you will move on and find other people.

Answer 5

you dont want anybody

you shouldnt have anybody.
if somewhat you do fall in love again?

she moves away you dont have a girl again you feel,

then youll want someone else.




thats so awsome that shes crazy over you..

your lucky, im still waiting for that perfect someone. what dont you like about her?

yes i said like, you do not know her, love her, anything.


get to know her.
trust me, once you let go and your next gf cheats on you you will be wanting her back cause thats the only thing close to perfect as you can get. and you wont have it because she'll be wanting someone that will at least give her a try. and to be faithfull.


saying as your not faithfull not being as cheating. she shouldnt trust you that you at least give her a chance when she moves away.

cause she doesnt know what we all know.
just give it some time dude. you dont need to "date around"

cause then that someone special has made out with like 20 other guys, and its not special anymore,


good luck, but please choose whatever you want.

Answer 6

well man thats a tough situation but i must say that if u want to let her down easy and remain friends you should say something like this...........baby you know i love you but the distance that we have between us now becasue of my move is breaking us apart and i don't know how much longer either of us can go. I wanna stay friends with u cause ur a really great girl but the distance is too great to maintain a relationship

Answer 7

Be honest. Do it quickly. She needs to have an opportunity to heal and move on. Don't drag it out. (Waiting) is stealing her future. Why not say "I like you a lot, but I do not see a future for us long term, so I want to go ahead and transition our relationship into friendship if you're open to that. If you need some time to adjust to this idea, please feel free to take that. I am definitely interested in being friends when you're ready."

Good luck. Breaking up is never fun, but it's necessary if you aren't in love.

p.s. If you are going to be looking for another relationship, you might want to focus on improving your grammar a bit. I hope that doesn't sound harsh, but it is important.

Answer 8

Do NOT do it to her while she is at work!! With the situation you are in things will naturally end. She will get the idea without you even saying a thing about it when she never see's you and doesn't even have phone to call you. That right there is a dead end to a relationship.

Answer 9

I know this is hard for you sweety ......girls take things like this REALLY hard !
Sometimes there are no nice and easy ways to say things !
Just try to be kind and sweet and BE HONEST ....just say that you feel you have grown apart from her and maybe (if she wants) to stay friends !
It's nothing about her ,,,,,you just have to trust ur own feelings !
Time to move on for you thats all !
Good luck and i wish you all the best !!

Answer 10

This is something you need to do face to face. If you never see her to be able to do it face to face, then I guess your problem is solved anyway. Just tell her with you two living so far apart and both of you being busy, you don't feel that it is fair to either one of you to pursue this relationship anymore, but you'd like to remain friends. Hopefully she will agree.