2007-02-07 18:50:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im not aloud to have a boyfriend because my parents are way to over protective i have to ask to go out in the BACKYARD!!! I know that they want what its best for them but my brother can go any where he wants i know he is older but it just makes me mad everywhere i go i have to have an adult with me and my boyfriend and i didnt do any thing bad but this is were it gets good i got in a fight and my parents pulled me out because this girl assulted me really bad punched kicked slped anyways my boyfriend was soo sad i still talk to him only on the phoen though we were going to make-out but i cant go anwhere with out any adult waht should i do ????????? if u want to know the FULL story email me princessalexis16 thanks!!!!
2007-02-07 19:27:18 · update #1
Not unless you want to be grounded.
2007-02-07 18:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by LSD 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take it from a girl whose been through exactly that. SECRETS ARE BAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wasn't allowed to date til I was 17. But when I was but 16 I met this boy a couple years older than me. Not only did he not even go to the same school, I NEVER told my parents. Well, they found out. Believe it or not, but parents usually know when you're hiding things from them. If you're not allowed to date, it's probably because you're simply too young right now. I wish I'd understood that with my first boyfriend. He was a JERK. My suggestion to you, talk to your parents about WHY you can't have a boyfriend, BUT FIRST, you need to end it for now. If you're not allowed to date, that's just too bad. But it would ruin your relationship when your parents find out and forbid you from seeing him, calling him, and leaving the house. Then you have to spend a good time rebuilding that wall of trust with them.
TRUST ME it's NOT worth it. Go on a break with your current boyfriend, talk to you parents about WHY you can't date yet. Try to work something out in a calm way with them.
I promise, it's better to not have to keep secrets. If your boyfriend is a good guy, he'll probably understand. Do you really think he would want to be a secret to your parents? is that fair to him?
2007-02-08 03:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Rin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your parents to always trust you? To respect you? To feel happy that you're their daughter, instead of anxious & unhappy. Then, YES! A boyfriend can either wait, or be replaced. Not so parents. I suggest you read ...
Youths---Let Your Parents Help You Guard Your Heart!
- Why Obey Your Parents?
- Attraction to the Opposite Sex
- The Persuasive Power of Your Peers
- Worthy of Honor
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2004/10/15/article_01.htm
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2007-02-08 02:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because chances are, they either already know (and are waiting for you to tell them) or they'll find out, which could cause problems.
Start by telling them just that you have a boyfriend, but not who it is yet until you see how they react. If they have a name, they can act on it and ruin it for you.
If they decide to answer this by telling you you're not allowed and that you must never see this boyfriend again, stand up for yourself. Tell them you were trying to do the right and mature thing by being honest with them, but if they can't respect that, you'll be happy to lie to them from now on. This may upset them, but they should realize that logically, they can only do so much to you. You probably go to school with your boyfriend, or can talk to him online. You see him all the time.
I'm not suggesting that you go all Revolutionary War on your parents, but keep in mind that it's your life here. Not theirs. Just because you live under their roof and are subject to their rules doesn't mean that they can tell you who to love and who to be friends with. No parent should ever be that controlling.
Chances are, what your parents are most worried about (and most unable to talk with you about) is you having sex. And they're right to be worried. If you can talk to them about sex, and if you're not planning on having sex, then you're already way ahead of the curve, and you have that as a bargaining chip in your favor.
2007-02-08 03:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by thebobcatreturns 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to have more conversations with your parents. You can definitely make them aware of your need for a boyfriend. It is good to tell your parents about your boyfriend. Take courage! after all your parents too passed your age. Remember to maintain the basic principles of boy-girl relationship.
2007-02-08 03:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Tere - educator & professor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to spend more time focusing on your education. For instance (aloud) is supposed to be spelled (allowed). You've run 2 sentences together. Parents know what they are talking about. Focus on school, not on disobeying your parents.
2007-02-08 03:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by AnswerGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want freedom, and the best way to get it is by being trustworthy. So far you have not been trustworthy, which lets me know you are not ready for more freedom. If you want a good relationship with your parents and really do want them to trust you, then you need to be honest with them.
2007-02-08 03:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...not to be mean or anything. But I bet if you tell your parents you will end up breaking up with your B/F cause he is right now considered a REBELLION act. But you won't agree with me on this cause you don't see it yet. So that is totally up to you. But your parents have a VERY good reason why they don't want you to date right now. But your just to young to understand why that is.
2007-02-08 02:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, tell them. In a good manner though. Try to explain to them and they should understand. Don't try to hide it because when they find out, things are just going to get worse. Honesty is the best policy. =]
2007-02-08 02:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Loki1314 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
does it matter? it'll be hard, but your young enough where your dad still wants to care about you and he doesnt want to be sad that your growing up so fast..
just dont worry about it until your older.
you see him at school dont you?
i was homeschooled. just think about that.
jump three times for your wish to come true
2007-02-08 02:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by ssig_ru2systems 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not yet..but keep pestering them until they start to become soft n eventually they'll give in n then u tell them, 'oh i met this guy, who is like a good friend" and then later he becomes ur official boyfriend!
2007-02-08 02:54:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋