my name is isha.i love raman a lot..i want to marry him.but my parents not agree?should i run away?

Question

i m isha 21 india. i m doing job. i love madly with one guy?i want to marry him?

Answer 1

So what’s the problem get married to him. You are educated , working girl he must be also working if parents don’t agree let it be you are of marriageable age no one can stop you so what’s the problem. Just for last time ask your parents, if they still say no, just leave them & get married to him. As a parent of a married daughter myself I know it becomes very difficult to say no to your daughter if she insists for it. I myself a lawyer could not say no or stop my daughter to get married same I think about your parents.

Answer 2

Isha, you want to marry raman whom you love a lot. May I ask you whether raman really loves you or not? You said you are working. what about raman? Is he working? Can he be a protector and provider for you? Have you ever seen the other part of his love? when two people are in love, they will not show their true colour before each other. there will be a competition to show the nicities to each other and try to conceal their weakness or bad habits from the other. If the guy whom you are in love can give you all that you need life long, then no need to run away. You try to pursuade your parents.still they are not agreeing go for a register marriage as per the law of our country. Before taking any such steps talk to your partner and if he is ready to face the consequences register the marriage so that there should not be any complication in your future life.

Answer 3

First of all don't runaway, because thats childish reaction. You and Raman need to schedule a time and place not at your parents home at a neutral place. You both should respectfully explain how much you both love each other and want to make a future together. You and Raman are adults this is something your parent has to accept whether or not they are in agreement.
Explain to them that you love them but have your own lives to live. Your parents can not live your life for you. If your relationship is healthy, loving, spiritual and postive with Raman they should be happy for you and give you the wedding of your life. Life is too short to be at odds with one another so mention the important things of life. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Dear Isha,

Try to convince your parents but dont think of eloping. Probably that could the most bad thing one can ever do. I know of a friend who eloped and the results-
-Her parents (& the guy's) dont speak to them or want to see them around their homes, after all most of the Indians are social animals!
-Frustration & problems between the couple after a couple of months (for 20 long years you have been living with certain people and you would surely miss them desperately, and as a result blame your spouse for being away from your family)
-They could not stay in decent home on rent for long (the neighbors & the land-lady keep asking them why they dont have any relatives visiting them. Finally they had to tell the reason and gradually there were no friends or visitors from their locality) -This is unnecessary interference of the neighbors, but still its difficult when people constantly hurt one's dignity.

:) DB

Answer 5

Don't take any stupid decision. Love is blind - u may be well aware of this saying. U may not have seen the negative points of the guy whom u are in love with. First of all try to convince ur parents and secondly find out the reason why they are not agreeing to this marriage.
Does the guy want to marry u and what about his parents ?
There are many responsibilities after marriage. Are u ready for all that ? Think and then decide.

Answer 6

Isha you are 21 its too early for you to get married.

Do Raman's parents approve your friendship, have they agreed for marriage ?

Remember to build one relationship you are going to break many relationship. Love is Blind your future is at stake Think and ACT.

Isha, I too Love a girl who does not belong to my cast but we have decided not to run away but instead work things out between her parents and get married with their blessings.

All the best..may God Bless both of you.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear that. You're right about what you said, children need to learn about other people's problems. I'm just racking my brains to think why mothers do that. I think it's because little kids stare at people in wheelchairs. Not judgementally, but because they're curious and inquisitive. I suppose mothers are embarrassed that their kids are staring at someone and worried that they'll say something rude or loud about the person and so they pull them away. They probably don't realise that the disabled person can see them. I think it's great that you want to write a book with a disabled person as a main character! go for it! I want to read it! xxxx

Answer 8

isha .... i think you should put Raman through a test ... some way to find out that his love is true for you ..... maybe your parents don't think he will stick with you for the rest of your life .... because we have all heard of guys who think they are in love and THEN two or three years later ... they just leave the girl ...... you should put your parents and him in one room and make them discuss it ....

Answer 9

Why to run away when law permits marriage. Consent of parents is immaterial in law, yet strongly advised. After giving birth and spending time and money in growing up, the parents never expect such eloping.

Answer 10

You can run any time but where will you stop / stay. Love is blind but parents are not enemies. Tell your desire / need to parents and they will / the should co-operate you. If you will, doors of parents may close for you.
My daughter, CA was in love with CA. She told her family and now she is married happily.
If you run, must obtain certificate of marriage.