Guys - I have been seeing someone for the past year and I do have some issues from the past concerning cheating and drinking and voilence like being throwing through a patio door with my past boyfriends. This one is a good guy and I still have trust and honesty issues with this one - he asks me to tell him whats going on but I cannot communicate it. Please help me before I lose him Thanks Katie
2007-02-07 18:19:59 · 7 answers · asked by kategoretex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him. If he really cares about you, he will understand and accept it. If he leaves you then he never loved you anyway, and why would you want to end up with such a selfish and non-unerstanding person anyway?
2007-02-07 18:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I can relate to your problem,I had issues concerning past relationships to. But I learned all relationships are different and everyone is different. Don't constantly compare one with another it won't get you no where and you may create an insecurity within the relationship and within him.Talk to him and express how you feel, but not to the point of to much detail, just enough to see what kind of reaction you receive from him. And that will tell you if he's the right one for you. Because sometimes men use things you confide to them to hurt you later down the line, but if you don't find that to be the case with him after being together for awhile, or your first disagreement then you'll be fine. Take it a day at a time,don't repeat past actions with the present ones let nature takes it's course, be happy and if it doesn't work out,then find a way to love yourself more and you won't have to worry about your relationships in the future.
2007-02-07 18:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by glorene b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate it to him in the way your are comfortable. If you aren't comfortable telling him face to face maybe write him a letter or something and then maybe you two can discuss it. It's important to let hi know how you feel and what has happen to you in the past.
2007-02-07 18:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you just tell him the truth. And i understand that it is hard to trust again after you have been done bad. But trust me you have to try and trust this one, because your insecurity might drive him away, especially if he is one of the good one! Just give him a chance :)
2007-02-07 18:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Yezmin Fernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your aprehansions are obvious but you need to be a little more open so that the other may not think or feel that you arent interested or otherwise.
2007-02-07 18:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a keeper. Move on. Life is too short.
2007-02-07 18:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth.
if he is really asking, he's asking cause he cares.
be honest
2007-02-07 18:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by briank1458 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋