Are avarage/ ugly women better off than beauties?

Question

I know this question is weird, but ever since I was about fourteen (now 22) I have been subjected to constant sexual harassment (physically and verbally) by men because of being "beautiful" and "sexy." Guys stare me down, touch me, and make dirty commets about my body, girls give me cold looks and treat me like an alien. It is very depressing, especially when I find that the man I loved only wanted me as an assessory and didn't really care about me. I avoid makeup, jewery, and dress plainly. Is there anyone out there with this problem? I'm so frustrated! I would give almost anything to just be a "normal" perosn for once!

Answer 1

Sweetie, I am sorry that you feel you are living a life that has been nothing but harassment, envy, and being used. It honestly has nothing to do with your looks. You are a beautiful woman, but you have also given over to a victim mentality. Predators (yes of the human form) sense weakness and will attack someone who the sense it from. You need to gain some control in your life with these circumstances. The man who only wanted you as an accessory. That is something you would have most likely caught if you had noticed the little red flags any bad relationship shows. The women who treat you like an alien. Honey, honestly, most women are not going to be mean and hateful to a woman just because she is beautiful. These rude and cruel women are again the same jealous or cruel predatory types that you have encountered in males. There are plenty of women who would not exhibit that behavior. If it is the way the world worked, you would hear the same complaints from every super model and celebrity out there who is stunning looking.
I would seek out some therapy and get some power in your life. You can have friends who will support you, men who will treat you with respect, and employers who will not harass you. YOU just need to stand up for yourself and stare back at those nasty glances. Seek counseling please.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you mean. The experiences I've had with some people because of the same reason made me so quiet and careful with everyone...They can say I'm a snob but I would rather wait and see what people want from me before I even talk to them.
I have faced problems with elderly men, with teenagers, bosses, stupid comments from female friends like "you're so used to getting who and what you want"!. Most men like you for how your face and body are like and do not even try to address your mind etc etc.
Sometimes I want to wear something nice or put some make up or do my hair in a certain way but I refrain from doing so just because I consider the amount of harassment I would get.
I am not even drop dead beautiful, but that's how my life has been for the last 14 years or so...I am 30 now, I used to think aging would protect me a bit...but even that does not! Now I'm married and I hope motherhood would.

Answer 3

the problem is that too many people are so shallow to only see you on the outside without considering what kind of person is within, and I know now I will sound like a raving lunatic but I go ahead and say it anyway, the vast majority of people are brainwashed drones for the media machine or influenced through cultural conditioning, they can only see you through those drone glasses and in that world they can only see you as an object, rather than a human. I would recommend looking inward thru deep meditation and discovering your own inner beauty, but maybe in your inward search you will find one very scary truth (thats maybe, I dont know you so I could be wrong) i.e. that perhaps you yourself judge and look at other people according to outer appearences, and so you are attracting much of the same to yourself. The trick is, send out loving thoughts thru discipline and meditation on a daily basis, and look for the beauty in everyone, eventually you will pull to you the people you want in your life.

"Thoughts are like boomerangs"

Answer 4

So be a normal person. I know it's hard, I used to have similar problems. I had a good dose of self confidence and just let loose the inner me. Be who you are and don't try to hide your beauty, do everything you can to accentuate it. There will always be guys who only want you for your body but in time you will figure out which guys are like that and which ones aren't. You will find the right person when you are both ready.

Answer 5

well babe...unfortunately that's how the cooperate world is. Pretty people get all the jobs. That's been proven with undercover investigations. Well..not always....but They have a better chance of getting the job over someone who is well qualified..just depends on the person hiring. But Most men are pigs (oink oink.I'm one) And women don't like challenges. (Queen bee Syndrome) That's why guys undress you with there eyes...cause they want in your pants...and women stare you down cause they are afraid of you taking what they feel is there's. A lot of people are gonna hate me for this comment. But Screw them.. The truth hurts..and they know it. So good luck to you little Missy.

Answer 6

Are you a nice person? Are you kind, loyal, sensitive? Are you a person someone would called a great friend? I think you are far too focussed on your 'beauty' and not enough on whats not so beautiful inside of you.
Forget about the past. Try and build some self esteem. Be some someone that you yourself can respect. Respect and love from the world will follow.

Answer 7

well i can relate...i have always been very pretty and many men stare at me or try to pick me up...i turn em down i am married but now i don't want the attention so there are alot of clothes i simply will not wear because i know i will be harrased by men...its very uncomfortable to be stared at or even guys tryin to touch you...at my last job some guy who cleaned there kept telling me how sexy i was and tried to touch my leg..i was really upset...and mind you i though i looked horrible..but their may be a certain quality even above and beyond just ur beauty that attracts people. you should be treated like respect

Answer 8

There are ugly women as you call them, that are way better than beauties, you know why because they are caring and know how to treat a person man woman, do not think that they are all that, and a bag of chips, if you know what i mean. you say you will give anything to be normal. Are you human or what, is their something seriously wrong with you. do you need help, whats normal.

Answer 9

I think you're being silly at best. Even the greatest looking woman in the world can make yourself look average if she wants to. Beautiful women have more doors open for them at the beginning of the relationship so they have more chances and more opportunity. Just forget about what people say, if indeed you're actually that good looking just enjoy it. And if you're hanging out with people who are hassling you, you're hanging out with the wrong kind of guys. Get serious. You get back what you put out. And right now the only thing you're putting out is that your vain.

Answer 10

NO. I'm a plain jane, as it's commonly called, and I can assure you...women give cold looks because they're jealous that they can't look like you. They think their boyfriends will leave them for someone like you, because they're insecure about their looks.

You're as insecure about your looks as we are. Guys seem to think that women that have beauty are airheads and whores because they don't need to do anything for themselves, it's given to them. I know that's not the case.

If these are guys you know, then you need to not hang out with them anymore. If they were really friends, they wouldn't treat you that way. If they're strangers, tell them to piss off and die.

As for the females, let it slide. One day their insecurities will disappear and they'll look to themselves to find their beauty and not be jealous of yours.

It's harder to be a ghost than it is to be a lightning rod, if that makes sense.