Stay at home mom for 10 yrs. The 2 youngest are almost out of high school. I ran a home-based resume writing business when they were little and for the past few years I've been working on getting a BA in History. So I have not worked in the corporate world for about 10 yrs now. I will graduate in December, but I don't want to get a job with a big corporation. I want to work at a job related to my field, in order to put my son through college. And after that I wish to be home agan. I love being home. My husband has no problem with it. He makes enough money to support us. Is there something wrong with me because I have no desire to get out there and make a living? Although I do let my opinion be known on various financial issues, I defer to my husband regarding the final desicion on most issues, whether it's financial or family related. He always takes my opinion into consideration and often decides to do exactly what I advised. Am I some sort of throw back to an earlier era?
2007-02-07 17:55:49 · 7 answers · asked by PDY 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Appreciate your husband (and give him a big kiss from me for treating you so well). Appreciate your life (you sound happy). Believe it or not, there are a lot of people who go to college and study all kinds of subjects. They get all kinds of degrees, but they never really use them other than for their own benefit. Nothing says you have to work. But you might consider teaching, especially if you don't need the money. You might find you like it and there is such a desperate need for good teachers. Just be happy.
2007-02-07 20:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some degree, other moms may be a little jealous! Not everyone can afford to be a stay at home mom, and as in your case, afford to be a working mom! The argument is a long standing one, and you'll find rude people that don't have the ability to respect your decision. If it feels right to you, don't worry about other's opinions. Doing the best by your child is the most important. I'm due in November, and am struggling with the same decision. I'm considering part-time to satisfy both needs. You can always make money, but you can't always make up for lost time!
2016-05-24 05:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that all women have this part of them that sways towards either staying home or going out. In some women it is more pronouncedly one way than in other women. There are a lot of irritating factors in the work world, and if you don't want to go out there, then absolutely don't. Make sure you have enough to do on your own that you are not completely emotionally dependent on your husband - that would be a drag for him. I've been home for nearly 13 years now. First I had 2 kids in a row, then started hsing, so I'll be home another 5 years or so. My husband got transferred to a place nearly 3 years ago that is soooo boring I can hardly stand it, and I really have to THINK to be able to tell him interesting things about my day. After my kids graduate I do want to work to help them with college, but after that - I don't know what I want to do. Probably work part time plus take some time to write. Way back when my son was a baby I actually got 5 or 6 magazine articles published, so I could probably keep myself somewhat busy writing. Whatever I do, I HAVE to keep busy. Even as a hs mom we are ALWAYS going someplace and doing something.
2007-02-07 18:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what makes you happy! I am a working mom of 2 and wouldn't have it any other way. I couldn't stay home all day just because of how I am. If you want to stay home and its not hurting your family financially go for it. Be happy!! It also seems like you and your husband have a great marriage...congrats on that!
2007-02-10 03:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a hard working mom and if you desir to say at home with your husban at your side, then I say more power to ya. You have put your work hours in on rasing your kids , which I'm sure are great kids, and you want to get your BA in history but still want to stay at home, (and your husban is ok with that) then you should and at least you can say you have some education under your belt. It sets a great example for your childern.
2007-02-07 20:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Latina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly are not a throw-back. On the contrary, I think you are the perfect wife and mother.You are lucky - your husband adores you and I am sure u have a perfect family if ever there was one. :)
2007-02-07 18:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, most women are like you. If your family does not need your income, then stay home and be happy.
2007-02-07 18:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋