Help I am at a crossroads in my life!!! what would you do?

Question

Whoa as if i am putting this online....
About 4 Years ago I was dating this guy, we dated for 8 months then he broke it off, we were both young at the time I had just turned 18 and he was 20. Since then we have some how crossed paths about 5 or 6 times (including a trip to mexico which neither of us knew about) each time I miss him more and to my knowledge he misses me, we keep "hooking up" (not having sex but we cuddle or talk all night) Now here I am, all of our friends are getting married or having babies, except him. I love him, I have for the last 4 years, but I have a Boyfriend right now but I know he is not the one I don't even really love him. Here is my situation: Should I call my ex and spill it all straight up "I love you, Let's get together cause you are who I see myself with" or do I move on be serious what would you do? I want to hear all opinons even if you think I am losing my mind.
Thanks so much

Answer 1

nothing ventured nothing gained...if you let your true love slip by you may lose your only chance at happiness. Come out an tell him. The worst that could happen is that he doesn't feel the same ......Its worth the risk and at least you will know

Answer 2

Tell the man you love how you feel, at least then you can see how he feels. I understand that it's not easy to choose between two people you care for...I've been there a few times. But if you keep this up, the guy you're dating may realize you're in love with someone else and that could ruin the relationship anyway. So you might as well do it now rather than drag out the possible pain and heartache.

Answer 3

It sounds like he's someone you trust and can talk to, both big pluses.

A friend of mine once said, you'll never know unless you ask. I'd talk to him. Worst thing that happens is you lose a friend, you go through some tough moments (which would be weird to explain to your current bf, so I'd definitely split with him first) and then move on. Best thing that happens is that you discover you guys really *do* get along, he feels a future with you and you with him and off you go. (Or, you get together and find out that the reality is not the same as the fantasy. And that's good to know!)

Better to know and deal, than to keep wondering.

Answer 4

Let's just pretend I know what your talking about... EXACTLY what your talking about..... ;-)

If I were you I would break it off with the current one FIRST. You DON'T want to ruin your chance with Mr. right by showning him that you can not be trusted as a girlfriend.

2nd, I would call Mr. right. (after the break up of Mr. wrong) And just tell him how you feel. Don't be pushy like, "YOU-ME-NOW" just let him know. If it turns out that he doesn't like you as much as you thought, what have you lost? NOTHING! A boyfriend that you didn't really want in the first place??? BUT, you will have gained the knowledge of how your Mr. right feels about you right??

Either way, you will be in a better place to move on with your life. That's a lot easier to say than it is to DO. But, that's only if I knew EXACTLY how you felt. ;-D good luck!!!

Answer 5

No you're not losing your mind. You're suffering from the "what ifs."

If you want to hook up with him, dump the current bf (of course) and invite the other guy over for a meal (and baked pie, or something). But don't be spilling your guts to him. Just, cruise into it, see what happens. Girl, hold your position. Don't divulge too much. Once he hears you're single again he should jump at you. If not, you have your answer.

Answer 6

Keep it simple. Try and step back from the cluttered situation and follow your heart. You don't want to be 30 and stuck with someone your not in love with. Either way you have to deal with your ex to be able to move on with your life, so make a choice.

Answer 7

woow - sounds like a scene from a movie - it's kinda cute - like one of those meant to be things - just follow your heart and your GUT INSTINCT. Don't break up with your boyfriend because of an external factor but because there are "internal" problems - remember that. Is this ex really worth it for you to risk everything? do you love him enough to risk your heart - if you say "yes" to these, then go for it - have faith, prepare your heart for possible heartaches and challenging endeavors physically, mentally, and emotionallty and good luck to you! I hope you get what you want :)

Answer 8

All bull aside..if this guy wanted you as a regular girlfriend he would have already asked you...

You will sound desperate and he probably doesn't want you as a full time girlfriend...At 23 most guys don't they just want a booty call and you are talking of love but you are going to cheat on a guy you are now dating and you are going to do it with a guy who probably doesn't even want you.

You are gonna end up alone with no one playing these kind of games...

Answer 9

is he with someone also? if not, make your move.. don't just sit there & wait.. if ever your roads will meet again it's time.. you can invite him over a cup of coffe at a start, & move to some place semi-public & romantic & everything will flow naturally.. then, when the moment is right kiss him so sweet & tell him what you feel.. "sieze the opportunity of the moment or the moment passes you by.."

Answer 10

Let your Eyes, grab him. Let your Heart make him notice. Let your Heart Beat, stop him in his track. Let your Emotions, make him know just how wonderful you are. There's never a need for words. Eyes, Heart, Heartbeat, Emotions. Keep those in secret. Good Luck! (no charge)