I am 23 years old and i have never have a date. I am really shy but the still not a good reason. Can somebody help me and explain how do you ask a woman out for a date.
2007-02-07 16:51:53 · 21 answers · asked by Johnnyboy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all don't worry about it. Who cares when you had your first date. Do you care about a passer-bys love life? No one is judging you so don't let society make you feel theres anything wrong with your situation.
It sounds as if you just haven't tried hard enough yet. The face value answer to your question is: go up to a girl and say "would you like to have dinner with me". But I don't think thats what you are asking underneath.
I think you have to start being aware of situations of potential. Lots of people think the place to find girls is at bars, but thats the hardest place of all. The more you get out of the house mingling with people the greater chances you have of meeting girls. They don't come a knocking while you sit on the couch.
Think of a leopard sitting on its haunches in wait for its prey. It glides into place without being seen. If you walk up to a complete stranger and say "do you want to have dinner?", your chances are very slim. However, if you've been working with someone or you join some community group or whatever and you chat and have a moment, then (like the leopard), you move into a zone where you ask them out in a way that they don't think they are being asked out. Like say after work, you say to a girl you work with as you are walking home- "do ya wanna grab a coffee I could really do with one"- she may well get that you are interested but girls like subtlety and it is mysterious enough to keep her guessing which they also love.
What a lot of guys don't understand is that while they are spending alone time with a girl it is virtually a date anyway and you are gaining their confidence. Then after the coffee you say, maybe we can grab lunch sometime. And then work it up until you feel calm to ask them to dinner. I would start with fish and chips on the wharf or whatever. Something really laid back.
I don't know your circumstances but hopefully you can get my drift and apply them to your situation.
Good luck
2007-02-07 17:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Oz Billy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone you like. Look them up on myspace, xanga, google to make sure they don't have a man, or girl! If she's not there, or if she is and she's single, get to know her casually first so that she drops her guard a little. This also gives you time to feel the vibe from her. If you're getting a good vibe, find a party or a good movie and invite her. At this point, you will know if you can take things further or if you should just stay as friends. Either way things will fall into place. BUT if you meet a girl you like in a bar or club, just rush right in and ask her out.
2007-02-08 01:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by koovaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow and I thought I had it bad, no worries chief its no big deal. I didn't get a REAL date till I was 18, anyway a lot of girls dont really care, they actually see this as an oppurtunity to treat you the best youve ever been treated assuming the girl isn't a total *****. I was really shy too, may I suggest online dating? it puts less pressure on you when you can type and really express yourself through emails and chat. I'll warn you though online is 50/50 sometimes youll end up going out with someone who totally lied about their appearance, and lets face it there has to be some kind of attraction. But anyway back to how to ask a girl out, keep it casual start talking to a girl you feel comfortable with and ask her to join you in getting coffee or lunch. Dont call it a date just think of it as getting together to get to know the person better. In fact dont treat as a date at all, you can both order your own food and just share a table and talk... that is pretty much how dates go anyway, and thats the whole point of a date anyway its to get to know someone better. Invite as many girls as you can to join you for lunch,dinner whatever and just you that as practice so you get a better idea of what girls are like on a one on one social setting. And when you've built up your confidence you can start really going after girls you like and such. You know what I mean? Just keep things simple and dont put so much pressure on the situation, keep it easy breazy my kneezy.
2007-02-08 01:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by homer838 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like a girl strike up a convo. with her about something you have in common (work sux... did you see that movie...something like that), just light conversation. Talk with her for a while and see if the conversation flows well. Then the next time you see her compliment her about something (I liked that way you did that, I like the way you said that, depending on how you feel maybe "your eyes are so pretty"....) Then some how get to the topic of movies (like what type of movies do you like, or have you seen this movie...) then be like are there even any good movies out right now? and when she says one, ask her what it's about, then tell her you'd love to take her to it. Then ask for her number and let her know you will give her a call. You can do the same thing with resteraunts too. Good Luck! :) Just remember confidence is the sexiest thing about a man! So be confident, you have every reason to be!!!
2007-02-08 01:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It nothing but a sheer lack of iniatiative on your part. Just brace yourself, start asking girls out, and don't be afraid to hear the word "no." 23 Isn't all that old, but you don't want to delay this any longer. Once you hit 30, there will be nothing left but divorced single mothers.
2007-02-08 01:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get cleaned up.Buy some nice fitting clothes.Get a hair cut and make sure you shave and the girls will come after you believe me .oh and smile and look into their eyes and walk like you are somebody because you are.it took guts to ask this question and that shows you are humble and have integrity
2007-02-08 00:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one is not who they truly wish to be, as their highest ideal, never can any mate know who you are going to be from one moment to the next, as you will continually seeking easy, and difficult, ways to attain that ideal self.
Strive to be the best person you wish to be to your mate before you meet them, and then you will learn how to meet, and gain by it being successful, and happy on all accounts.
God bless, dear child of God. Indeed, I love my wife more than my own breath. However feeble I may be from still needing to strive, I have given self-proven and sound advice.
2007-02-08 02:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Gravitar or not... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are just like me who is too shy to try. I'm actively working to change the situation and I hope you do the same.
2007-02-08 01:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by JohnC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dartboard, somebody is bound to say yes, and i dont know what you look like but, save some money and its make over time! go to a nice salon and ask for makeover + tips. and tip well up front. it should get you somewhere
2007-02-08 01:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be friends with someone first, then you'll be comfortable enough to go out.. theres no rush.. i really don't get the 'dating' thing, i like friends first then going out..figure out your type if you don't know already and seek it..hope this helps. good luck
2007-02-08 01:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by k.vee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋