Can two people with mental disorders live together successfully?

Question

My sister-inlaw is calling us asking for help because her marriage is in trouble.Her husband is abusive one minue and sweet as pie the next,she is also being treated for being bi-polar.I don't know what she's like to live with but it may be more than her husband can handle,and visa versa.They are both hurting and they love each other.In your opinion,can this marriage be saved?

Answer 1

I have depression, anxiety/panic attacks and agoraphobia and my husband has bi-polar. We have been together for 20 years and married for 17 of them. We have 4 kids.
It takes a lot of work but it can be done, helps if you have a support network set up for when things get tough.....

Answer 2

She needs professional help for all the mental problems she's having. As much as you might want to, you can't save her. She needs to ask her family or a close friend for help if things are really this bad. What you need to do is look out for yourself. While you obviously care about her, it's probably best not to get involved with this mess again. Do point her in the direction of help though and cut off all lines of communication after that

Answer 3

many women are diagnosed with a mental disorder when they are stuck in abusive relationships.... the men are not actually "mentally ill" either, in the way that schizophrenics are mentally ill.... more apt to be stinking belief systems (eg., men are superior to women, women are made to care for a man's needs, it is okay to use mental and physical control and violence to get a woman to do what you want her to do, etc.) and that belief system is not going to be changed by a pill. Doctors are very quick to diagnose clinical depression and prescribe ssri pills. Most women who get outside of abusive relationships find out, "hey, I'm NOT crazy!" whereas staying inside the relationship can really make you feel that way. Abusive men use isolation to get the woman's focus on them. After a while, his reality becomes hers.

God bless.

Answer 4

Your sister-in-law can be saved by taking him to a psychriatist and giving him counselling. In that method many people got relief from their extaordinary behaviour. Your sister-in-law's husband's behaviour is very dangerous. And similarly your sister-in-law should also be treated for being bi-polar. First thing is that you should not think of keeping two persons having mental disorders combined, but think of giving treatment to both of them. Then it is very easy for two normal people living together successfully.

Answer 5

Some good mental health counseling, anger management, and maybe even an adjustment in the meds could make a lot of difference in this relationship.

With family that cares like you do, they are very fortunate. They can make it, but it's a tough situation. Both have to want to make it, and be willing to put effort in to getting better.

Answer 6

The husband sounds like a real S.O.B. That's not a mental disorder, that's just poor character.
My ex-husband and I both suffered from depression, and I think that's one reason our marriage didn't last. I still have depression, but my husband now is mentally stable. We don't have many problems.

Answer 7

The only way the marriage can be saved is if they go for counseling and he gets extra counseling for his abusivness. Abuse in a marriage should not be tolerated. Tell your sister to insist that he get help for this. If he refuses to get help then she needs to ask him to leave until he gets help for the abusivness.

Answer 8

hullo
they should seek psychological help to save their marriage,couple therapy might be the answer for there dilemma.

Dr solo

Answer 9

And Love is the greatest of them all..corinthians verse..but if they have problems with their own health I don't think it would last.A blind person can't lead another blind person.