I went out on a date with a guy. He was nice and all, but he just wasn't my type. In fact, he tried making out with me and I said I wanted to slow things down. Anyway, he was with the most cutest guy who was totally my type. Anyway, once I got back home I e-mailed him and let him know that I wasn't ready to date anyone steadily, but that I'd just like to go on dates until I really find what I'm looking for. I asked him for his friend's number. He said he would let his friend know about me, but he never even e-mailed me back. Is there something wrong about what I did? I thought I was honest and I just wasn't really interested in him. When I called him up about a month later, he just said he thought it was a weird way I told him. I'm assuming he was offended. I still would like his friend's number and honestly, I think he is kind of being a jerk in this whole thing. It's not like I tricked him into getting his friend's number or anything. I was very honest.
2007-02-07 16:23:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DAMN You all. Be that way. So much for honesty. Everyone on yahoo answers is forever advising HOW HONESTY IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY. HONESTY THIS THAT. Judging from this page, honesty doesn't do a damn thing.
2007-02-07 16:42:46 · update #1
well, he obviously didn't care what you wanted. You can guess what he wanted and you didn't let him have it so he isn't worried about what you want. mmmkkkkay?
you didn't do anything wrong.
2007-02-07 16:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're pretty thick. You tell a guy you don't really want to see him and then ask for his friend's number. Be grateful he didn't tell you to go to hell (or something more colorful).
Calm down there. Honesty is always the best policy. And telling the guy you weren't interested in seeing him any more is the right thing to do. But proceeding to ask for his friend's number is basically a slap in the face. Finding another way to get the friend's number would not be dishonest, and it would have been much more considerate.
2007-02-07 16:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hurt his feelings. Sure, you weren't in anything serious with him, but you probably could've held off on pouncing his most cutest friend's number off him that night.
He probably feels like you blew him off, which you did and which is fine. But to then ask for the number of his pal? Well, tact can go a long way sometimes.
2007-02-07 16:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by SnowFlats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! Yeah, you were wrong. I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to see his after the date with him didn't go so good. But, you should have approached his friend on your own. It is disrespectful to ask someone who likes you for their friends number. And if his friend is a man, he wouldn't want much to do with you anyway knowing what you said to his friend. My only advice is before you ask a question, put yourself in their shoes.
2007-02-07 16:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was a little insensitive on your end, even though you were only trying to be honest. He responded perfectly normal because you in a sense said his friend was a better catch than him. Next time, don't try to get the friend's number even if he's gorgeous =)
2007-02-07 16:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lonely Love 06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were honest and I can appreciate that... however he may have thought the date was going well.... then had moped for more dates and more action ... only to find out you want his friend. I would bet he was quite pissed off about it.
You did no wrong.. just hit a nerve with someone who was misguided!
2007-02-07 16:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was feeling jilted.see if there is another way to get the other guys number,when dating we dont know how its going to go thats why its dating if you know his name look under people search and give him a ring.
2007-02-07 16:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay yeah its really good that you were honest, after all you weren't leading him on or anything but it is really rude that you asked for his friends number after you went out with him. that must've made him feel horrible. dont do that. its just really rude.
2007-02-07 16:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS EXCATLY WHAT got here approximately TO ME AND MY chum...different than it grew to become into my ultimate guy chum, they didnt flow out yet they enjoyed eachother, anybody says me and him shuld date yet we r only ultimate pals....yet they ultimately didnt lik eachother aftr some weeks so flow forit, if she rly did like him she wuld say no
2016-09-28 14:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... it sounds like you need to learn some dating etiquette... you never ask your date to set you up with someone else!!!
2007-02-07 16:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
... you should put urself in his position and see how it feels
he really likes you but you ask him for his friends number
2007-02-07 16:29:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋