Moms, I need some advice.....My four year old boy doesn't want to go to school....?

Question

Have any of you went through this with your little ones, if so, what did you do to overcome... I'm desperate... I'm afraid if I make him go, he'll start hating school. And if I punish him for missing, he'll still hate school. I don't know what to do. Should I be worried? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.....Thanks!

Answer 1

There must be a reason why he is not happy there. You would have to try find out the cause of his distress before you can help him. Approach his teacher and explain the situation and with her help, maybe the two of you could work out a solution and make school a happier place for him. Good luck!

Answer 2

If he's four this time of year, I'd say he's too young. Parents tend to be in a hurry to get the kids in school... when not all kids are ready right at age five for the academic or social aspects of school. Boys especially do NOT suffer from being held back a year... their motor skills and coordination are much improved in that year...

So... look at the pro's and con's of holding him back a year. Take him out and start him again next Fall... Of course, you want to approach him in such a way that he doesn't think his behavior is acceptable, or will get the same result if he tries it next year. Perhaps the teacher or school administrator could "make the decision" rather than you?

I advised a friend to take his son out of kindergarden and they think it was one of their best decisions. When their son returned to kindergardn the following year, he knew the rules, he knew the teacher, he knew the best playground stuff, his motor skills were improved, his coordination was improved... which all made him the "big man" on campus... That's a confidence booster like no other!

Answer 3

Find out why he doesn't want to go to school. Is he being picked on? Is the class too far behind his level or too advanced? Is it just because he loves you and wants to spend all his time with his favorite person and hero? Or will he miss "Clifford" on PBS? When my son was in preschool he didn;t want to go because he wanted to be with me and missed me during the day (he also had some minor health issues). When he was in elementary school, he was being picked on and bullied by kids that were 3 and 4 grades above him. He also still had health issues. He is now being homeschooled and still doesn't want to "go to school." Now his problem is that he is just being lazy and will miss "Clifford." However, he prefers being homeschooled because he doesn't have to be scared of the bigger kids. Until preschool, my son had never been away from me for any extended period of time. So there you have it. There could be many reasons why he doesn't want to go to school. Find the core of the problem and address that. If there are bullies at school talk to the principal and teacher. If he misses you, surprise him at lunch a day or two a month. If the classwork is the problem, talk to the proncipal and teacher and have him moved to a more appropriate class for him. Good luck Mom.

Answer 4

my son hated school too the kids picked on him he did not like the noise, his lunch was taken from him by his teacher no less so he would eat the school lunch. I am now doing home school with him. Ask your son what the reason is. And if you can stop by and see the class and talk to his teacher & other parents. School is a must yes but most kids can not learn in the enviorment that is school today. A classroom should have more student to teacher one on one it is not happening this way. And is your son in preschool or pre k?? Can you homeschool? k-12 is one of the best, and I was the last person who thought her kid would be homescholled!

Answer 5

The best advice i can give to you is to keep trying and take him to his classroom and let him know that you will be there before school is over to pick him up and keep reassuring him. School is a must now a days so make him but even try rewarding him the first couple of days like having mommy and him special time. He will eventually start to like it as he meets new friends and sees how nice his teacher is. I know people that have done this and it has turned out fine and now they love going to school. I wish you all the best and I hope this info helps you out.

Answer 6

I had the same problem with my 4 yr. old little girl . She only goes to school 1/2 a day in the afternoon . I would go and stay with her for lunch and when they would go to class i would try to sneak out . Of course she would throw a fit . The teacher would have to catch her from going out the door . That lasted for about 2months now she goes to school no problem ... just hang in there but yes i think they should go they learn so much at that age . I'm amazed how much my lil girl has mutured ... good luck

Answer 7

Just ask him why he doesnt want to go to school. He might be being picked on by others. Or he might just be a little shy. Call his teacher and ask if she can maybe help him adjust better. And if this behavior keeps up maybe start showing him people that didnt get a good education. And what he can do with one.

Answer 8

for the first dew days go to school with him, let him get to know the kids he'll be in class with and his teacher after a while he'll forget your even there. don't feel bad i have a 4 year old in pre k too

Answer 9

Im not a mom but as somebody who was 10years old i say let him stay at home. let him watch tv and go to bed late. hahahahah... just kidding. Every kid hates going to school. Just explain the importance of school to him. He will still hate it but at least he will know why he has to go. Once he makes some friends, he will still hate going but thats just normal.
gudluck.

Answer 10

Someone could be picking on him at school and that may be the reason why he dosen't want to go. Ask him and ask his teacher. I really don't know what to tell you cause i have no trouble out of my son who is in kindergarten. He loves school.