Everytime I have asked a girl on a date, somebody I know, they treat me differently afterwards and they rarely talk to me. I always see girls treat "better looking" guys different then Iget treated. I never had a girlfriend and I am 24 years old. I never understand why I get rejected. I'm told I'm cute from some girls, or I'm sweet and to never change, but then I ask a girl on a date and it's avoid or loserville? I'm the kind of guy that holds doors open for girls and who is a friendly person and I try and get along with most people. What's the problem, and what can I do?
2007-02-07 16:04:40 · 17 answers · asked by psalm42_8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First don't give anyone so much power that they make you feel like a loser....you sound like a winner to me...if you have not yet found anyone be patient life has many twists and turns you will soon find your soul-mate...someone that deserves you! Good Luck!
2007-02-07 16:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by lolita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. First of all: have some self confidence. It doesn't sound like you have much and trust me, girls can tell. A woman wants a man that KNOWS he's got something to offer. She wants a man who feels good about himself. Next, find a nice girl. Develop a friendship before going in for the dating relationship. Last- a great way to meet girls: Have a friend or co-worker set up a date for you. Not only does this give you a connection to someone you might not have met on your own but it also gives the friend a chance to tell the girl how wonderful you are. It's especially great if it's a female friend setting you up. Good luck!
2007-02-08 00:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you talk about them treating you differently after you ask them out, it's probably just awkward for them. That's like if you have a one night stand or something with someone you see everyday. Things don't always feel the same between you two after that.
I wouldn't take it too personally though. You sound really sweet and some girls, despite what they say about wanting a sweet guy, actually avoid that trait...Not always purposefully though...
2007-02-08 00:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better-looking people always get superior treatment; that is just natural selection, my friend. Also, being called "sweet" by a girl isn't really a good thing; it's like a compensatory complement. From what you described, I think you need to quit presenting yourself as such a nice guy and become more of an aggressive suitor. Good luck -- I hope your days of singleness soon end!
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2007-02-08 00:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be bold and honest. If they like you before you go on a date with them, then there is something that makes you unattractive. I dont know you so i cant say, but girls are as visual as guys are. We just look at different things. Guys want a "body of a goddess" and we want clean teeth, no ear goo, and fresh breath. If that doesnt apply to you, then I would have to talk to you to find out
2007-02-08 00:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by zunyone1974 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen up love... This is the real world bout 98 % of ppl judge on luks and never personality If a gurl cant c how much of a gentlemen you are by holding doors, wine-n-dine them its totaly there loss...Just wen you least expect it a beautiful woman wil love to b ur gurlfriend and appreciate you for who u are..dnt let anyone change you ever just b you..
2007-02-08 00:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by angie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK before some *** says something hurtfull to you Ill jump in and try to help you. What kind of women are you interested in? women almost never ever date down meaning you need to ask females out that are your equals in looks and money.
Young women are harsh, actually quite cruel and are blinded by what society says they should want (this actually back fires on them) they want bad boys or rich boys or popular boys. You are probably a very nice guy and you will do fine if you understand how to interact with females.
One, work on who you are become a good man and learn to love life.
Two, work on your future and how you will make money become financially stable. Its fun to have toys and although women will deny it they love cash and can overlook almost anything if you wave money in front of them.
Three, become an educated man read alot, travel, work on art. These things make life fun and make you attractive later on in life.
Lastly, fall in love with who you are, be proud of who you are. Learn to love all the little things that make you who you are.
If you follow this advice you might not have a relationship tomorrow but when you do meet a female who is tired of games and bad boys she will recognize a good man and will pursue you.
Do not get down on yourself you are fine Im sure just work on your strengths and minimize your weaknesses and you will be fine.
As a final note older women understand what a good man is and are always a valid choice, there are alot of very attractive older women who have become tired of the typical show pony males that this society trumpets.
As a post script I was dateless for quite a while, sometimes it was my own choice other times it was just lean years. I did the above and became a man I love to be and now Ive been married for many years to an incredible women who wouldnt have given me a second look earlier in her life but after a few dozen jerks a decent, intelligent man starts looking real good. We have a son we are crazy about and we live a nice life because I educated myself.
Your best revenge will be living well.
2007-02-08 00:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by BIG-IRON 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you probably seem the friend type. Stand up and let it be known that you like a girl! Dont allow her to put you in the friend category!! I have a friend that this happens to all of the time. The girls become friends with him. or see him as a friend because he allows it. Dont act over eager!
2007-02-08 00:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by alicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were raised the right way and deserve a good girl rather than a wild animal.
If you keep on asking girls out you will get one.
2007-02-08 00:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by kook 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
try playing hard to get. dont be so nice all the time. be sweet but not too sweet. girls probably think of you more as a friend than as a boyfriend.
2007-02-08 00:14:21 · answer #10 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋