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So I like this guy i work with, but there are a few problems. 1. he is worried about being with a girl after the way his ex crushed him. 2. he is younger than me, not by much, but still younger. 3. he acts differently as work then when he is just with me. 4. i want to ask him out and i do not know if that is okay in a guys eyes.

I do not know what to do. i really like him and i think he likes me back.

2007-02-07 16:01:24 · 25 answers · asked by Double D 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Couple things: 1. Guys LOVE it when a girl takes the initiative and asks them out. 2. Dating a co-worker can be very tricky. Some organizations have policies against employees dating. On top of that, if he's a different person at work than when he's just with you, you need to think about how that might make you feel. If he doesn't show you personal attention at work is it going to make you feel bad? If you break up, how would you deal with working together? Lots to consider... if you still think it's a good idea then go for it. Good luck!

2007-02-07 16:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by L 2 · 0 1

I'm O.K. with the idea personally, but there are two questions I would want to see answered before getting into something like that:
1) Are you both mature adults?
2) Do you communicate well?

If you answer no to the first question, the deal would be off for me. By mature adults, I mean that whatever happens, you two can handle it and keep working side by side like professionals with nobody making a scene. It didn't work out. Too bad. Move on. If I felt the other person couldn't handle that, I would refrain. (I know I can).

Secondly, before you start anything, make sure you're on the same page. Some people don't mind if everybody on the floor knows all about them, others prefer to keep work and life completely separate. So before you get into something, make sure the rules are clear. If you can't seem to communicate, chances are at least one of you is not that mature anyway.

2007-02-07 16:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The only thing to watch out for when going out with someone at work. Try and forsee if things don't work out! I'm not saying it won't but, FROM EXPERIENCE. I dated this guy for about 6 years and worked at the same place for the last 3 years of our relationship before he dumped me. He was too much of a mommy's boy! Anyways, getting back to the job I realized I couldn't work there anymore and had to look for another job. Too painful to deal with and ya know how people talk. What was worse a lot of people turned on me. So, if you do decide to ask him out. You both should try one way or the other to keep your relationship outside of work as much as possible. In the end, a lot of people will use whatever, either one of you say against you. It will make both of your lives harder. I'm sure don't want that. Me, I learned the hard way!

2007-02-07 16:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by ********* 3 · 0 0

1. He needs to learn to move on and you may be able to help him with this. That's what heartbroken means.
2. My guy is younger than me and it hasn't created any problems fro 71/2 yrs.
3. He is going to act different and he should because he is trying to be professional about his job and that may look bad to the boss if he sees that you two are involved. It's called Fraternizing and it is forbidden in most jobs.
4. Sure it would be o.k. for you to ask him out. The worst he can say is no. Good Luck!

2007-02-07 16:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 4 · 0 0

Dating someone from work is kinda weird at first but as time goes on it becomes fun... Age doesn't really matter... I personally think it is alright to have a girl ask a guy out, in his case I think maybe if you asked him out it will be better cause it'll raise his self esteem to know you care and like him enough to ask him out... Some guys don't think its right for the woman to make the first move, I actually think its a turn on.... good luck

2007-02-07 16:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Tone_Loc 2 · 0 0

oh my god this is bad bad BAD. trust me. we did it and we aren't together anymore, we had it all worked out nicely so that we ran the store together as managers and all that crap (i moved up mad quick on the food chain because of him) and had the same hours and were off on the same day and it was great for a while. and then i think we were spending too much time together. we would come home and not talk to each other at all. until we went to work the next day.

and when he finally cheated on me, i quit. it took me a long time, and i still had to put up with him, but if i didn't have our baby i would still be there putting up with his stupid **** because he decided to be a lot less mature even though it was his fault we broke up. i mean, i lost my JOB because of him. thank god i was on maternity leave and that gave me a valid excuse to find another job. i was actually moving up there. it pisses me off still.

although i can come back whenever i want, i said i wouldn't unless he quit first.

2007-02-07 16:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0 0

1 give him time to get back on his feet. 2 age don't mean a thing unless his younger than 18. 3 everyone act diff at work unless you know them when you start. 4 start small

2007-02-07 16:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by chaosshade16 2 · 0 0

I'd say it's good because the sneakiness heightens the romance. Asking a guy out is more than okay in most guys' eyes. Some of us like and admire aggressive women.

2007-02-07 16:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Direct from Leykis 101:
Dipping your friend in the company ink is a strict no-no.

In fact, you should not engage in any conversation with a woman at work unless it directly relates to work. Do not compliment them. Do not ask them out to dinner. Your conversation outside of work should be limited to Good (Morning / Afternoon / Evening). If you go beyond this, you're a lawsuit waiting to happen. If you do date a coworker and you break up, things can get tense around the office (especially if it was a nasty breakup). She can sabotage your career or, worse, file lawsuits claiming sexual harassment. At the minimum, you will have to see her every day, and maybe collaborate with her frequently. It's just not worth it. With all the background checks employers perform, if a sexual harassment lawsuit pops up you can say goodbye to that job.

The courts are very hostile towards men in this regard as well, so just play it safe. If women want to be engaged in normal conversation, they can lobby the courts to be more lenient first. We're not going to risk our future to try to get a date with someone who, for all we know, is waiting for a guy to say "nice skirt" so she can claim sexual harassment and settle for a large sum of money.

Report all sexual harassments! If do not report it then it means that it is acceptable for a women to sexually harass men and get away with it.

2007-02-07 16:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jolly1 5 · 0 1

Depends...I started dating a co-worker years ago. Turned out good...we have been married for almost 15 years, have two kids and live the good life.

2007-02-07 16:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by snarf 5 · 0 0

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