This lady( I use the term loosely) made my life hell in the beginning with my fiance and now she says she 'accepts" me, *****! I am not some pet to accept, how about you "accept me" at home watching All My Children eating cheetos you bleached-blonde tramp!
2007-02-07 15:54:23 · 21 answers · asked by akissbythetiber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would not even consider marrying with that kind of mother in law.......she will make your life miserable.
2007-02-07 15:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by lolita 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You don't tell him, you can't. No matter how you see things that is his mother. He has the responsibility to honor her and you have the responsibility of letting him. You cannot take away that right from him, it would be totally wrong. I am sure if she accepts you now she didn't really have a problem with you then. Maybe she was doing what she could to keep him from cutting the apron strings.
I feel that if you want this marriage to work at all you will need to find a way to iron the wrinkles out of the relationship you and his mother have. No matter what she says or does as his mother she deserves respect. You don't even have to like her to respect her.
We are all stuck with the responsibility of donating peace to a family no matter how big it becomes. If no one contributes there will be no peace. If only one does there will be a glimmer of hope. Forgive her for her past attitudes and go on from there. If you allow it, it will all work out in the end. Even if you two don't become very close there will be some peace in there which is important to you and your husband.
2007-02-07 17:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, good luck with that one. Mother-in-laws are always going to do that "i accept you sh**". My mother in law had a hissy fit the day after we got married because we would not babysit her niece while her and her sisters went out for new years eve. They told my husband he was a horrible son and that I was less of a woman for making him say no. Just suck it up and have her at the wedding. You will be so busy being with him that day and greeting the people you invited that it wont matter. I had my mother in laws ex boyfriend attend my wedding sitting next to her in the front row. I was pissed BUT I told people around me to run interference with him and her. So everytime someone saw him or her come up to me they came over and stole me away. Its sad that that had to happen but because of my good friends my wedding was very enjoyable and I didnt notice them too much.
2007-02-08 04:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what you have to consider, is how he feels about her. You may end up causing a rift between the two of you! If he truly loves you, then who cares if she comes to the wedding or not. My in-laws hated me in the beginning too. I never did anything to them, they just didnt' seem to like me. They didn't even bother coming to the wedding on time. They finally showed up after the whole thing was over & we were walking back up the aisle! If she wants to be a hag, then let her. You take the high road, & don't let her BS get to you!
2007-02-07 16:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be sure that he is not the type that what Momma says "GOES", if so, your life is gonna be pure H...e...ll. Momma will make sure of it. Sometimes we have to kill momma with kindness.hehe, invite and rub some love on her, brag to all the ppl about how wonderful she has been to you, yourself and her will know the real truth, she will feel 6ft, opps did I say 6ft, I mean 6inches tall, and for those that do know the truth will be laughing under their breath, and you will deserve a real pat on the back for being the better one. Go ahead and Invite, show others that you are better than that. ewwww. I feel ya girl. Good Luck
2007-02-07 15:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by Desperate to get out of it? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant tell your fiance his mom cant come,you need to sit down with him and discuss the details of what occurred between you and his mom.Why did she have a hard time accepting you? why are you worried over whether or not shes watching TV and eating Cheetos she is too an adult,talk to your to be husband before things get ugly
2007-02-07 16:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by resigned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha, she sounds like a winner. Understand, that when you marry someone, you marry into their family too. She is going to be there whether you like it or not. IT is his mother, try to see the good in her, and believe me it is possible. Try to look past all the pain she has caused you and try to spend some time with her. Take her out for lunch and ask her what the problem is, and how you would like to make it right. Try it, and yes this does work.
2007-02-07 15:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by unknown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it is. No matter what you do, you will always have people that are opposed to your relationship. Mother-in-laws can be the worst.
Even though she has been a b*tch to you, it would be a BIG mistake if you didn't invite her. She will become your worst enemy if you don't invite her. She will spend the rest of her life making your marriage HELL.
Just something to think about.
2007-02-07 16:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that starting your life with your husband my ixnaying his mother from your wedding is such a good idea.
Just take a deep breath and send her an invitation...
Are you not allow her to be any part of your's and your husband's life? What will happen when you have kids will she not get to play the grandma role?
I love my mother in law to death and could not imagine her not being a part of me and my husband's life!
2007-02-07 16:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by JesJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't! Love is blind and most everyone I know hates their mother in-law. She may not respect you or like you but you are accepted! LOL, no, really you don't even want to know what my mother in-law did at my wedding it is way too traumatizing for anyone under the age of 100, but you know what, I love my wife and moved far away.
2007-02-07 15:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by coffeegod 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not a good way to start out a marriage, i think you should calm down, this is your going to be husband, mother, what if he said your mom couldn't come?i think you should try to make amens-with her real soon, this could make or break your marriage, or maybe put off the wedding until both of you grow up, you to must find some common ground, now,just be bigger than her and invite her to lunch, maybe shopping, get to know each-other, you can do it, if you really love him.good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-07 16:07:13 · answer #11 · answered by debbie d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋