So my best friend is a guy who started out as a crush...Now this guy is awesome and really cute and were with each other all the time and talk on the phone at least two hours a night... I like him a whole whole whole lot but he says he sees us just as friend ... I have tried to find another guy to focus on but Im still way way stuck on this guy.. I get the vibe that he might like but he keeps saying he just wants to be single so what should I do wait for him or give up completely?/
2007-02-07 15:51:00 · 13 answers · asked by ginny M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok here is a tip, I have been through this situation, and still am. Most people will say get over him etc etc. No don't that means you have given up, there is always hope for something. Though it can take time, maybe a few days, maybe a few months. But seriously how man guy/girl best friend relationships stay as that without each other liking one another at one point in time. If you are willing to wait I think the day something happens, it would be very rewarding!
Just remember even if you are not going out with her GF/BF terms, you have a great time just when you are with him anyway! So keep it that way, it will make you happy, when the time is right it will happen.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 16:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm being honest, not mean.
I think your friend is gay. I have a theory about guys and girls being friends, but if he talks to you that much and you have that great of a time together, and no moves are made, he has to be gay. This is pretty normal. I know a lot of girls with gay guy friends and this just fits the profile.
Guys and girls cannot be friends without some level of sexual attraction, especially when spending this much time together. If he's not acting, there's a reason for that. Put the moves on if you think you have a chance. If he treats you like the plague, you may have an answer.
2007-02-07 15:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by lostinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his best friend, and let him come to you if you have already spoke your peace about liking him. If it is meant to be then it will happen. Good Luck, I am in the same predicament. Ahh, guys are so confusing aren't they. Lol Hope it works out for you. Come to think of it. Some of the best relationships start out with the two people being best friends. Sounds like he is thinking about you, you planted a seed, just do not forget to take it slow. You do not want to ruin what you got going on, right?
2007-02-07 15:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got to exchange phone numbers and call each other sometimes.(Smiling) I have been in the same situation. I have a bestfriend I been knowing for 3.6 years. I wanted to date him because he was so awesome when I met him, but he just wanted to be friends . He said his life wasn't straight and he didn't want to hurt me. (AWW) I did something bad and told him. He was hurt. Then all the feeling came out about how he thought I was a good girl, he thought I was different , he want me to be is wife one day...etc Just continue being his friend and don't do anything to hurt him. He might just come around one day and want to be with you.Good Luck
2007-02-07 16:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the exact same position, so much so it's almost freaky. =) started out as a crush, now we talk all the time...he says he doesn't want to date anyone right now, because relationships don't last during high school...always denies liking me...and then one time he said he wouldn't mind dating me in college o_o. so yeah.
i think we're both in the same boat though. just accept the way things are now. he's your best friend; would you really want to lose that? you like him, and sometimes it may seem better to get over him...but sometimes you just accept it. be the best friend you can be, and wait for him to make a move, or for a time when both of you are more mature (assuming you're in high school now)...or simply for a time when you can be absolutely positive that taking a chance and asking him out is better than simply enjoying things the way they are.
but that doesn't mean to lock on to him completely. look around you. are there other guys whose company you enjoy as much as his? get to know them.
there's no reason to give up unless the fact that you like him is getting in the way of your life. just accept things the way they are.
good luck, and thanks for showing me that i'm not the only crazy girl crushing madly on her best friend! =)
2007-02-07 16:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
does he have a girl friend?
if he is in love with someone else... then i think you will have a tough time getting him...
Well i have a better idea...
since you are getting a positive vibe...dont give him up completely...
start looking for someone else.....
who knows ... if you meet someone else.... you may never need to wait for him
Life is a mystery ... you never know when an opportunity will come...your way.....so keep moving .... someone is there for you... and is looking for you.....
dont forget to tell me .... when you meet him...
by the way ... which city are you in??( wink.... smile... just joking)
2007-02-07 16:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by importer911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would gust be friends with him for wright know and try not to push the subject.He might gust run a way from a very good friend.
2007-02-07 15:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you seem to understand what he is saying,
"he says he sees us just as friends"
Can he make it any plainer for you????
Must he defecate on you before you catch a clue?
Are you one of those "Fatal Attraction" women who can't seem to comprehend the word, "No!"
2007-02-07 15:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better be friends as of the moment. You might never know what will happen tomorrow......
2007-02-07 15:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by josie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he desired a relationship, he would've let you know by now.
2007-02-07 16:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Reality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋