LADIES AND MOTHERS!!! What would u do if your daughters or friends came home w/ him??? Any advice is helpful!!

Question

OK i met this guy in college.I'm sorta starting to get into him.He's very much into me.This I know b/c of what he tells people about me.The only thing is, I don't know whether to pursue a serious relationship.In my heart, I want to, but I know my family will disapprove of his appearance,his personality, or his habits. Anything about him really.He's about 5'5 and weighs about 125. He's very pale and always wears really big, baggy sweatshirts, and pants.He has long stringy black hair, tattoos, and a tounge ring.He's from Chicago, both parents are lawers, and he really flaunts his parents' money and the things (expensive clothes, flashy cars,etc.) that he buys with it.He also smokes and drinks extensively. Ladies, what would you say to your friend if she was dating someone like this, and moms, what would u think if your daughters came home with him on their arms?I appreciate any comments/advice.I want advice from either angle, as a parent or a peer, even if it is negative advice.Thanks

Answer 1

First it is Lawyer.....Second If he smokes and drinks like you say he will most likely only treat you good until he has you...I would not bring home a BOY that waste mom and dads $$ on making his self more of a loser. If it goes anywhere ..what will you do when it is your money he waste. Find a man and lose the attraction to one you describe as rather UN attractive

Answer 2

I am a 19 year old college student, so I definitely understand where you are coming from. I tend to fall for the guys that my friends and/or family do not seem to approve of. First of all, how do YOU feel about it. You aren't 16, you are an adult now and are old enough to know what you want. As long as he is good to YOU and y'all are compatible and you think y'all could have a good relationship I say go for it. Now the drinking and smoking would be the only thing that would really bother me about this guy, but it's what you want. If you like him and he likes you--what is stopping you? Just explain to your family and friends that you understand him and he understands you and appearances do not matter. If he is always "flaunting" the money as you say, let's hope he doesn't let it get to his head where he becomes arrogant. The inside is what is most important. If he is just scruffy looking but a good guy, I don't see a problem! :) Good luck to you and God bless! :)

Answer 3

You should no any parents dissaproves of who the child or kids date.. now dats kul his parents make money.. but if he cant mak his own green (money) and buy his own stuff then mayb you mite want to reconsider you dnt want to date a loser who depends on other ppl to get by.. If you do decide to do a long relationship jus think how it wud be if he went out alot to drink with his friends and watever else he likes to do and leaves you hanging cuz it wil get to that point even tho he says he LIKZ YOU ALOT...

Answer 4

Well I know that I am asian and have never dated an asian guy, I'm not attracted to many of them but my parents don't approve of anyone other then asian guys. But I don't care. I'm real care about who I bring home and I make sure to tell the guy that my parents already hate them without even knowing them. But the last guy started to grow on my parents, kinda. More than I thought he ever would. He met them after two years and we dated for one more. As time passed and they saw that I really loved this man they began to accept him because they knew that I was happy.

Answer 5

To be honest..it shouldnt matter what is on the outside. It's what's on the inside that counts. If you really like this guy then you shouldn't worry about it. Now if your parents disaprove of him, just tell him what it is that you like about him so much. It may be hard in the beginning but later they will see him the way you do. Good Luck!

Hopefully he is a good kid..with future values.

Answer 6

If I am your Mom I will not allow you to make him as your boyfriend. I'm sure you can find a much better person than him,anyways it's not just the money thing he has but try to consider what would be your future with him.

Answer 7

I would totally befriend him and confuse the hell out of my daughter. We would become best friends.

And then I would ship her off to boot camp :)

Seriously, that movie with Tony Danza where the daughter brings home the bad boy - and the dad [Tony] decides to adore him to bother her - and they become best friends and she wants to drop him right away like a dirty habit? Rock ON!

And yes. Boot camp/military school would be considered. And maybe drug testing. Because she had better be stoned to make a dumb decision like that!!

Answer 8

first of all don't listen to these dumbasses that wrote before me. I would probably give him a chance to see his real personality then slowly try to push that he would be a whole lot hotter if he changed his look in a few ways or get somebody to be like"Hey I could get you to be in my modeling agency and you'll be in the next *blank* magazine. But first, let's get rid of that tongue ring...Also, you gotta sober up becuase u can't go into a photo shoot looking like a drunk!"

Answer 9

I dont knwo if u mean he's fat or not but it sounds like he's a spoilt rich kid trying to rebel against his parents which isnt cool cos he shouldve grown up by now.
i wouldnt count it as a long term thing.

Answer 10

Looks and money do not matter. What matters is how he treats you. If he treats you good and doesn't call you out your name, and is a best friend to you, then screw what people think. All you need to worry about is, does he make you happy????