I am not with my son father anymore we broke up when I was 3 months.I got back with my ex when I was 5 months. He wants a baby he dosnt have any kids. Is it to early to start trying for a baby
2007-02-07 15:39:07 · 12 answers · asked by Loving Me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think it would be best if you waited. For starters, your son would be only 1 year old when his sibling was born, and my son is one now and I can't imagine how difficult it would be to try and entertain him while caring for a newborn.
Also, it takes a woman's body more than a year to get back together after having a baby. Many doctors reccomend that you wait at least TWO years before trying for another baby.
You might not like the sound of this one, but whats the reason he was your ex in the first place? If you broke up then, what's to say that he will stay with you now? It's very admirable of him to want to be with you when you were pregnant with another man's baby, and to help you (I assume) with your son, but if he wants a baby fix, why don't you let him calm the one you already have when he wakes up the next time at 2 am?
I don't know about your money situation, for all I know you're a millionaire, but I doubt it. One baby is very expensive, and you've got to think of your son and consider whether he would have to do without something in order for you to provide something for the second baby. That wouldn't be fair at all.
And there's no guarantee that baby #2 will even be a girl! It could be another boy. I know several families who only have more than two kids because they decided to try 'one more time' for a baby of the other gender.
So overall, yes, I think it's much too early to start trying for another. Wait at least until your son's first birthday and see how everything is going then.
2007-02-07 16:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need to do some heavy duty maturing before bringing another baby into the world. You havent been w/ your current for very long and you jumped right into a relationship w/ him straight from the other. To me it sounds like a rebound and you just don't want to be alone. I think you should do some alone time w/ just you baby consentrate on being a good mom to the one you already have and get all your feelings in check. Also it is very common to want another baby so soon together, the novelty of having a newborn has worn off a little bit and you want that feeling again (I am not saying that you love him any less). Im sorry if this was not the answer you were looking for but just from you 3 sentences so me it is what you needed to hear. and by the way there is no way to guarentee a girl, I was going on all boys, no girls at all, and I have 2 girls and no boys, I love them little girls more than anything in this world and wouldn't have it any other way.
2007-02-08 02:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by medleyc1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, with your son only being two months old, IMO i would wait until he is at least nine months to one year before having another child. Trying to raise 2 infants is really tough. Raise your son until he is 9-12 mos and enjoy that time then try to have a girl.
Just rememeber that you have a 50/50 chance of having a girl on your second pregnancy.
I knew a couple who had a girl for their first child, then decided to have a boy, well they had a girl. They tried for a boy again and guess what, another girl. They ended up with four girls and no boys. HE called it quits after that. BOY, is he outnumbered. 5 to 1.
Anyways, good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-02-07 23:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by clrizzy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. that is alot to put your body through and after your son's father leaving you should do what's best for you, not what the guy you're with wants. Even if you really want a girl, having a boy is great too.
2007-02-07 23:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by pchiz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need some time to think this over, it really sounds immature, to try to have a baby for someone who does not have kids. Children ideally need a father and mother in a stable home. You can do that. Do it for your child.
2007-02-07 23:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your should wait. A woman's body takes a year to fully heal from the trauma of child birth and you should love your son as an only child for as long as you can. if your boyfriend can't love your son as his own do you really want to have one with him anyway.
2007-02-07 23:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by ProudMommy05 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Gee you want a girl baby instead of a boy baby huh? I guess when you finally get the one you want you'll just throw this one away then? Grow up first, you have no business making babies to begin with.
2007-02-08 01:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, your supposed to wait at least a year. Give it some time, spend it with your baby now before you have more.
2007-02-07 23:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe I would wait until your relationship is stable, your finances are in check, your body has healed and you see how motherhood is going to be during your son's first year.
2007-02-08 05:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, see if you guys can make it before adding to your family as u know a new baby is a lot of hard work and stress
2007-02-08 00:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by evian 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋