what do u think a single mom can do when she think that her 15 yr old son may be involved with gangs,drugs and older women's. he come in late, he come home with all kinds of new clothes,shoes that cost more than what she give him for shopping..she have try many things to get him back on the right past.she have try to talking with him. family and friends have try talking with him but things r getting more bad..father was killed in a hit and run (dwi) 5 yrs ago..he don't go to school walks the streets til time to come in.once was my best child in the home and at school and i tell u that i'm at the end of my rope and lost. don't want to see him on the streets for some one to hurt him r even kill him..so what do u think..
2007-02-07 15:38:53 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
call ur local juvee officer, they have programs like scared straight, where they can put him in jail for 24 hours to let them see where thier life is taking them. i know it's hard but it was done to me and now I have my ged and some college. thier are ways u just have to be strong. thiers allways the maury show and D WEST hahaha no seriously!!
2007-02-07 15:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by mybabiescea 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One thing you can try is to talk to the police about it and the police can talk to him. Or try asking the police to give him a ride around the city while they work and maybe he can see what goes on when ur related to gangs. That will give him a good idea of why he shouldn't be in a gang. And also be positive about everything you say because his father isn't here any more. That can cause great grief because to a child, a loss of a parent means more than anything else. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-10 09:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by aethermist5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek help from the schools and juvenile probation. There may be a diversion program in your area that could help you get him a little more under control. At 15, that's a pretty tough task, but you need help supervising him, or he could easily end up staying in juvenile hall, the State Juvenile Facility, or he could be seriously injured or killed in gang activity.
Picking up that phone and calling the police is probably one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do. But you need help, and that's a great place to start. The police report will bring him to the attention of the probation department or diversion program. Either one of those agencies can offer parenting classes for you, and counseling and supervision for him.
2007-02-07 17:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your instinct that he needs a male role model is correct. Is there a family member who can spend regular, dedicated time with him? There are also "boot camp" programs run by local law enforcement in many cities that work with young men over several weeks during summer. More serious boot camps even have the boys stay at a facility while in the program. Check in with your city's police department and they may have information on both types of programs. Good luck.
2007-02-07 15:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by C.D.N. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe send him to a Residential Treatment Center - my cousin was doing the same thing but @ 17 and it changed his life so much - he is now 19 and entering college @ UW Madison - It helped him get off the drugs and deal with some personal family issues. he was there for 9 months and i just think that without it he would still be lost ... i hope this helps and good luck :)
2007-02-14 07:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin Kaitlyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres only so much you can do as a Mum, its so frustrating when you have done everything in your power to pring them up the right way - it is no relection on you and dont let anyone else let you believe that. My son had a great quality upbringing, got into so much trouble, ran away from home a couple of times, got into drugs, you name it and now hes dead, suicided at 26. Doesnt mean this is going to happen to you or your son. Please get this DVD or video - THE FAMILY by John Bradshaw - we are all the end products of GENES - check it out - get back to me if you have to as I have to go watch my fave tv show right now - my email address is contactable as per yahoo. Bye for now!
2007-02-07 17:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have five kids between the age of 16 and 22 and they are all boys. I have watched them go through stages and they go through times where they do anything and everything they can to try and fit in. You try to tell them that life is better after Highschool. But we know teenagers and they dont listen. All they do is talk disrespectful and yell and scream and tell you how stupid you are! right? of course... There is no way to tell, what if you confront him, then he gets indignent with you, what if you follow him and he isn't then you don't trust him, you can only make him aware of the dangers that he is facing if he is by talking about news stories. You can question but do it cautiously. Feel free to contact me if you need help, on my IM
2007-02-14 18:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by James S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always something scary and parents only want the best for their children, but honestly when it gets to this point you do have to play the tough love and act as if you have turned your back although you really haven't. Set a time to be home and when he doesn't show call the cops, same as when he comes home with things you feel are stolen. take him back to where he said he got them. It is time to invade his space and burst his bubble till hopefully he wakes up. My mom had to play tough love on me when I was younger and it really works, At the time when she would call the cops and what not I despised her but now I see she only did it because she cares and loves. As my children get older I will do the same.
2007-02-15 12:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by butterflyangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in most cases he is gonna have to learn the hard way flat out not trying to be mean but im 19 and have a 15 yr old sister who runs the street all day has a 2 yr old son and has a STD we tried talking it dosent help she rebellious and dont listen now shes a dropout with a son a std and now is depressed its only her fault .one day every body wakes up and see's the light it just takes that one extreme f**k up. pray for him god helps everything.
2007-02-07 15:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i feel it for you. first of all you have to sit with him and talk talk talk. listen listen listen.
you have to explain to him school is an investment and the system is designed so a large number of people fail-
if he is really out of hand i would even move from the neighbourhood. you have to explain to him you will do everything possible to assist him but drugs are the biggest no no, show him a jail cell, tell him HE IS SO RESPONSIBLE FOR HIMSELF and if he still not listening throw him out. earlier the better. he needs responsibility and if he wants to act like a big man out he goes. dont worry he will come running back
2007-02-14 18:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing would to be put him in rehab for a couple months and then move to a new location when he gets out. Rehab will help him immensely with not only drugs, but when he gets out he needs to fee llike he can be a new person. Lettiing him come bacck to his old enviroment will be pointless.
its just one choice out of many tho
2007-02-07 15:47:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋