2007-02-07 15:37:32 · 13 answers · asked by akissbythetiber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to tell him. Chances are that if you don't he'll find out somehow from someone else, which would be worse. Hopefully you'll be able to work through it. Good luck.
2007-02-07 15:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell him - but you have to realise that because of your cheating, you are not ready to commit. It would only serve to break his heart. I am guessing that you are young, and even perhaps getting married because you've been with your boyfriend for a while, that you get along with him really well and that both your families are advising that the two of you get married and hence "everything will be OK". Look, if you are cheating on your finance, you are obviously not ready to get married. The right thing to do is to NOT GET MARRIED. If you feel that you have to get physical with someone other than him, then the right thing to do is to call the wedding off. Please don't hurt him or his whole entire family by marrying him after having cheated on him (and lord knows a cheat will ALWAYS get busted). Be honest with yourself and realise that the cheating is a result of your not being ready to settle down - AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. It sounds like you are young - young people are supposed to see different people to ultimately find the right person for them. Is someone right now trying to tell you that you are SUPPOSED to be settled down? Don't listen to them - there is nothing written in stone that says you are to be married at a certain age. You are supposed to be seeing all kinds of men to decide what you like and don't like. And maybe perhaps you are meant to be married much later in life. If you have already cheated on him, you are seeking something more than what it is he can offer you. Be truthful with yourselves and not tell him that you cheated, but rather that you are not ready for such a heavy commitment. I urge you honey to be a good girl and not let it go any further than it has to at this point. You are not bad or wrong are a sl*t for having done what you have done - just don't marry the guy on a bed of lies. If you do, I guarantee that it will come back around to bite you in the butt.
Please be honest with yourself and realise that you are not ready for commitment.
Peace be with you!!
2007-02-07 16:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A good relationship can only work with honesty. Keep in mind though that when you tell him, there may be no wedding in 2 months. The best way to look at it is....if he cheated on you this past weekend, would you want him to tell you? Be honest to him...and be honest to yourself, if you really loved him, why would you cheat? You may break his heart now, but it will be worse if he finds out later.....
2007-02-07 15:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u wud want to stand in front of everybody on ur wedding date making vows and knowing that u were and are totally commited.....so tell him. truth hurts but its betta then living with that guilt feeling. if u cud cheat on him 2 months before marriage then ur not ready 4 commitment...deal with ur consequences....u made the bed so sleep on it...sori 4 sounding rude...but its not nice what u did.gud luck
2007-02-07 23:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is no way to start a union with someone. If he is smart he'll cancel the wedding and save himself the grief.
2007-02-07 15:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by locowherto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow she's grow to be not proper for what she did and also you understand that, positioned your self in his shoes-or vise versa. i imagine you ought to verify which includes your cousin first. 2 weeks away, omg! if i had a fiance i ought to decide on to understand if he messed in the back of my again, and that i ought to desire that if it grow to be a relatives member ought to tell me for particular. Infedelity isn't cool-it hurts people, extremely once you're growing married. you're contained in the marriage? properly it really is unlike you're not in any respect get a probability to be in yet another wedding ceremony hun. Confront her and in case you care about her fiance verify with him...you wouldnt decide on him to screw up? he's ideal for her yet she's not for him. on the different hand they gained't of had sex? both way call for that your cousin supply up seeing him or you'll tell your her guy. it truly is what i ought to do If i cared about him as strongly as you do on your cousins fiance.
2016-12-03 21:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by lemmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't make this the worst decision ever. Tell him now before it's too late. In 10 years if he finds out he may blame you for lying for years instead of days. The sooner you tell him the better. You already are guilty enough to ask strangers, don't make it worse.
2007-02-07 15:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by castzpg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Don't ever make the mistake of telling him!!!...don't lose on a great marriage....go on with your life, and forget about your mistake....But be aware that he will not find out about this yahoo account, and find this question.....if he does, then it will be over for you.....so be carefull.
Goodluck :)
2007-02-07 15:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by prettybella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you are desperate not to marry him and you want him to dump you. It is a guilt thing you will have to carry yourself.
2007-02-07 15:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's disgusting. Yes, you should tell him so he can go find a better girl.
2007-02-07 15:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by tuna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋