What are the steps to acceptance? I just finished denial.?

Answer 1

you mean the 5 stages of grief? they are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance....

here is a link you can go to that will describe each stage. normally you will go through anger which in my case helps me a lot. but what will help you go through the whole 5 stages of grief is having someone to talk to. if you have time, you can contact me and you can pour your heart out to me.....i am a good listener and people have helped me throughout my life with grief of separation and grief of death.

http://www.counselingforloss.com/article8.htm

Answer 2

If you have finished denial, then you have taken the very first step towards acceptance. Now that you are at this point it is time to look at how your life was affected and how long it was affected as result of your past behavior. It is generally good to write this down so that you may get a good look at your past behavior and this will assist you in moving on. With acceptance comes life changes and forgiveness of thy self. This is where you will learn more positive behaviors and a new life style for yourself.

Answer 3

The first step is to state the rule clearly and explicitly, for example:
I must always help everyone.

Next, acknowledge the rule’s survival value and strike a bargin with your unconscious mind. You might be tempted to get rid of the rule once you’ve stated it, but that would be a big mistake. Typically with “survival rules” the reasons behind it have been lost in the past and all that’s left is the strong emotions surrounding them — like the fear that something terrible will happen if we don’t help everyone all the time.

So even if you don’t know the origins, you can say to yourself “This rule has been valuable in enabling me to survive, so I have no intention of getting rid of it. I’ll keep it around for use when the proper occasion arises. I may add some new rules, but the old one will still be there if I need it.” Doing this provides the safety net your unconscious mind needs to accept the rest of the transformation. Your unconscious probably won’t speak to you in words, but your body will respond with feelings that tell you whether it’s OK to proceed to the next step.

The next step is to give yourself a choice. For example:
I must always help everyone.
becomes
I can always help everyone (if I choose to).

Next change the certainty of the rule (”survival rules” are usually absolutist in nature) to possibility. (Plus many of us also have a “perfection” rule that compounds things and you may need to address that rule before proceeding further.) So that:
I can always help everyone (if I choose to).
becomes
I can sometimes help everyone (if I choose to).

This still raises the issue of perfection, so the next step is to change the rule from totality to non-totality, so that:
I can sometimes help everyone (if I choose to).
becomes
I can sometimes help some people (if I choose to).

Once you’ve made these sorts of big changes, it’s relatively easy to decide when, where and how you want to apply the rule. You want to avoid replacing one rigid rule with another rigid rule, so it’s a good idea to come up with at least three examples as you transform that general into the particular. So for example:

I can sometimes help some people (if I choose to) when….
they ask me clearly for help
I have the skills to help them
I have the resources to help them
it fits me to help them
I choose to help them
I will be able to tolerate failure to help them

Once the transformation of the rule is complete it’s helpful to write it down. Then once you’ve had a chance to practice applying the new rule you can revisit the written version to see how things are going. This fulfills the promise you made to your unconscious and acknowledges that one isn’t perfect. So you may also want to revise or clarify one of the particular conditions. For example, you might find that:
it fits me to help them
is better stated as
the two of us can arrive an an open, explicit and limited contract for help, and I feel good about that contract

Changing “survival rules” doesn’t necessarily happen overnight, but it does work — although it’s not flawless.

Answer 4

Something like denial, anger, bargaining, and...don't remember. They are listed online somewhere I'm sure but I think that the popular consensus among the psychological community right now is that while they are steps, they don't necessarily get followed in a particular order. I think a lot of pro's suggest that it's even likely to be undertaking multiple stages simultaneously.

Answer 5

sweetie, there is no step to acceptance. its a natural process that people just have to go through on their own terms.

one thing you can not do- is push yourself, because it wont be real. acceptance comes at a different pace for everyone going through the grieving process.

however, it generally goes

1. denial
2. anger
3. sadness
4.acceptance

there are no steps- just let your mind do the walking. but if you think its been a long time through one certain stage- you might want to seek some help from family and friends to try to help you move along through the process.

good luck :o)

Answer 6

if you need to ask you need to ask your sponsor first. been clean of drugs 14 years and sometimes I question that. It is like marriage, a real commitment. You need to talk to someone who has been in your shoes and the fellowship will help in understanding how you feel. It will help you stay on that almighty wagon from hell. Trust me it works you have to want it. Reach out!

Answer 7

a positive attitude is a magnet for positive results, Love your self first and you will be able to love others as well, and love others like you love your self, and you have to always have self worth and hope, and above all of this pray daily to achieve all that you can, God bless you as you fore fill 'your' goals in life, set your goals high enough to reach what ever it is you want out of "your" "life"God bless the USA and Israel and All'

Answer 8

I believe it is to make amends to all the people you have wronged, go to the NA or AA web site they can help, I hope you
make this work for you, do you read your just for today book.

Answer 9

Anger maybe? I don't know the order of the steps.

Answer 10

What?