he was straight poison. he was good at times but most of the time i felt empty inside and alone. he never really truely acted as if he cared all the way but i did care for him deeply. so why in the world would i keep thinking of him? he is always happy to break up but always wants to come back as if he had the chance to go and do what he wants for a while. im sick of him and at times i hated his guts. so why do i leep thinking of this so called man. he stills call me and like an idiot i pick up the phone. i really do hate goodbyes but i know this is something i need to do. i always let him back in the past but i know now if i ever want the chance to be happy i have to let him go. so why do i keep picking up the phone? i need help on this one. i know everything i need to do and why i need to do it. but i keep picking up that darn phone. plz someone help with some strong advice. ty.
2007-02-07 15:21:06 · 10 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi hun. O.K. I know this situation all to well, but much worse then yours. I had an ex who drank allot and beat up on me. I kept picking up that same phone and had the same drama. They way I stopped all of it was blocking his number and making lots of arrangments to do all kinds of stuff so I wasn't home and depressed. The more you sit and think about this guy the harder it will be to get away from him. Block his # and go out with your home girls more often. Another thing could be when you see his number come up think of how unhappy you were with him, I mean really think... If you don't bother with him for a while the calls will stop and you can get on with your life. :)
2007-02-07 15:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know rationally you should shut him out but can't say good-bye, it sounds to me like you have some unresolved grief or maybe unresolved hope of salvaging something. And it may not be grief over the relationship itself, but grief over getting involved in the first place, or not having the power to make things right.
If it's simple grief, then you have to give it time and space to work itself out, and not try to wall it out or bury it. If there is some deeper resistance to doing the right thing, try to find the source. It might help to talk about it with someone you trust, or a professional counselor.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 15:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you because you allow it. You admit that this guy is not for you and you admit you do not appreciate the treatment---so sorry to say it, but you have a self esteem issue. You feel that this guy is what you get and you can't do any better---you may or may not understand what I am saying--but it is a fact and you need to stop all this stuff. You must want to have contact because you allow it. If you really want to stop it you could--and you must. This is your issue and not anyone elses. Self respect and dignity would tell you that you deserve better than what he is showing you. Whatever the reason--you seem to feel that you need his contact----you better get a grip. Good luck.
2007-02-07 15:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the old saying... Nice guys finish last? Well its perplexingly true. Unless you treat a woman a little trashy the women don't seem to be happy or respect nice guys. Gluten for punishment I suspect. And moreover, nice guys bores the pants right back on the ladies.
2007-02-07 15:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose to answer your question because i my self was in a similar situation with my x she was extremely toxic and i kept putting up with it , while my Friends all shook there heads ... we broke up and i kept answering the phone when she called or answering her emails till about a month ago when i found a new int rest the point is , i know its easy to say your gonna stay away but its another thing to actually do it but if i can do it i truly belive that you can also find a new love and chace it i guarantee you will forget him. gl hope this helped
2007-02-07 15:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by angelgodz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep going back to this man because he is intriguing to you...he sends you mixed messages and that keeps you interested in him. You have a need for closure, and until you get it you you will keep on chasing after him. Women are naturaly attracted to men that they can't have. I am a man, I know. When you don't have anybody in your life it's hard to get a woman to look at you, but when you're already hooked up, you ooze confidence and women pick up on that. Listen to a favorite cd, cry a bit, and move on. You're addicted to bad boys. Find a man that is addicted to his own interests, that turns you on...not a man who is addicted to other women.
2007-02-07 15:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by Shock and Awe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some counselling I'm not being rude but it appears this man destroyed alot of your strength and dignity as well as self-respect and confidence. Only seeking some professional help will straighten out your life and help resolve some of your issues surrounding this creep. Look to God he can help mend your heart and soul and your life. God Bless and Good Luck start praying.
2007-02-07 15:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no boundaries. You need to define what is acceptablle and unacceptable behavior for a partner, and then kick those who fall off into the the unacceptable to the curb and just move on or they will keep coming back.
Don't you have ANY self-esteem? Or are you addicted to the drama?
2007-02-07 15:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are addicted to self-sabotage and apparently you are bored.
If you had a slew of things to-do that were pressing, you wouldn't have TIME to think about this man.
You need to ask a few things to your schedule and add call block to your phone to help you move on.
2007-02-07 15:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by DaMan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
start doing porn
he will come back faster than my herpes on friday night
2007-02-07 15:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋