I love this guy, there's no denying it. He apparently doesn't like me at all; he ignores me entirely, and I'm really hurt about it. I want to let it go, but I'm too attached. He's perfect, and I'm not. I don't kow if he's just conceited or if he just can't make up his mind on whether he wants to be nice or to ignore me. This guy means more to me than anything in the entire world, and I thought things would work out nicely, but it just turned into a catastrophy. I don't know whats wrong with me, but i desperately want to change for hi m; whether it's wrong or not. I want to be good enough for him, but I don't know what I can do to make that happen. So many things have happened, and I can't just walk up and randomly be nice to him...
A few weeks ago he was ignoring me, but then out of the blue just started being nice, and I got this pathetic idea that he was faking it, and I think he might have been, so I was ignoring him a little and was being mean. He then stopped talking to me.
2007-02-07 15:20:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I soon realized that I hurt his feelings and so the next day i wrote him a note with an apology on it, and idk if he let it go already.
He hasn't really talked to me in several days, and i wonder if he;s just holding a grudge, or if he thinks I'm a total b!t*h, or if he just doesn't care anymore. I guess that in the end I deserve all this, but I really want him. i can't go a day without him being on my mind all the time. My friends say I love him, and I think they're right; what other reason would I be so hung up on him for? I want him more than anything, so what can I do to get him to understand I love him , (and NOT think I'm pathetic or have him feel awkward or embarrased)., and get him to know I'm very very sorry for being mean, and that I really do care about him? I don't want him to be mad at me or anything. I love him, so what can i do to have him know:
-I love him
-I'm sorry for the way I was acting, and that I'm truly not always like that.
-I care about him...
2007-02-07 15:28:37 · update #1
I don't want him to feel freaked out or embarrased or awkward or anything... and I don't want to go and spoil things for myself all over again. I think he's sort of worth it.. cuz he's supposedly normally a nice guy, and I know it seems like I'm just wasting my time, but I really like him, and I'm willing to change myself for him.
I know- I sound really crazy and insane, but it doesn't feel right without him in my life.
Please... i need help..
Thank you...:)
2007-02-07 15:31:53 · update #2
You aren't crazy or insane, just unbalanced by infatuation. It sounds to me like you've blown it by playing games with this person and you should move on. I know that's easier said than done, but I hope you learned a lesson about playing games with people who are attractive to you.
2007-02-07 15:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're playing too many games... with yourself.
You have no integrity. You have to say what you mean, and act in accordance with the things you say. Your feelings and actions are out-of-synch. You can't reclaim integrity and find yourself until you get back in-synch either.
Additional comments: Move on. You're beating yourself up, and that's not healty. You are so spun there's no getting over it until you realize it isn't all about what you do and what you want.
2007-02-07 23:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i read this it reminded me of a past relationship i had, i felt just the same way you did, NOT GOOD ENOUGH. i was depressed because i felt that something was wrong with me, he didnt ignore me but he used me, and thats worst,because i didnt care as long as i had his attention. and well it had to happen sooner or later he went on with his life, and i was left heart broken. to make the story short, i learned to value my self as a woman and not expose my self to be caught up in these kinds of relationships. it changed me. but my advice is make yourself be respected and never ever think that you are not good for anyone, its just that sometimes we want something so bad that we forget about our values.be strong girl...your guy will come
2007-02-07 23:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes you think there's something wrong with you? HE IS NOT PERFECT!! if he was, he would be with you, right? he would not be mean, he wouldnt play you week after week...he would think - wow, someone cares about me that much, what is wrong with me? yes, thats what he would say if he was perfect.... now, find a hot guy that deserves you!
2007-02-07 23:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If any guy makes you feel this horrible, he's not worth it. Definately give up on this one and find a new guy...one who likes you as much as you like him.
2007-02-07 23:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋