My best friend needs avdice on this guy she's seeing. She has been "friends with benefits" with this guy for awhile and is starting to have other feelings for him. She's afraid to ask how he feels about her though. They go out to dinner and movies every weekend. She sleeps at his apartment, met his parents and friends and everything. I'm not really sure what to tell her but I think she needs to find out if he has any feelings for her. What should she say/do? I need help so I can know what to tell her. Especially before Valentine's Day. Thanks guys, I can't wait to read your replies. :o)
2007-02-07 15:11:32 · 7 answers · asked by gands06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your friend should talk to him about her feelings. He may have changed feelings as well. Considering the time they spend together, it is quite possible that he too might want more. She is better off finding out rather than wondering. If she wants more than that, she deserves to try to get it. Plus if she wants more than friends with benefits now, she needs to know if it is all he can ever give. She may want to move on.
It sounds pretty positive to me however.
2007-02-07 15:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive had a friend with benefits now for 12 years. I really dont know why she wants to ruin a good thing. Sadly most people especially women want ownership when the sheets have been split many times. She is no differ as we see. Besides she can give him a friendly gift of a fantastic valentines gift and leave it at that... Besides, its not like they dont have a past or a future. But I also suspect he would of said something long before now if he wanted to move it to the next level by labeling it other than weekend mini sex vacations.
2007-02-07 15:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....usually in a FWB relationship one has the feelings where the other doesnt. only one person gets the benefits of it and it is usually the guy. he is probably content with how things are and is unmotivated to move the relationship any further because well hes getting everything he wants and the freedom of being able to be with different girls..........so i suggest you figure things out before "your friend" gets really hurt. very rarely do those relationships work out. its just a guys rebound girl usually/and sadly..
2007-02-07 15:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Friends with benefits" is a euphemism. A euphemism is a virtual substitute. She's not a blow up doll. He's not a dildo. They already have a relationship, whether they want to admit it or not. They'd better discuss their feelings about each other. It's not only important, it's essential. No man/woman is an island.
2007-02-07 15:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I know it's heard for your friend.Tell your friend gust to go up and ask him what do you think of us been together.If he gust said only Friends with benefits then drop him like a fly.He gust want to have his cake and eat it to.
2007-02-07 15:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can.
Your friend should tell him on Valentine's Day that she is pregnant.
Gauge his response and act accordingly.
2007-02-07 15:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have fun, you ( i mean she) doesnt need a title.
Don't scare him away cause you want something he is not ready to give.
2007-02-07 15:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by The_Answerer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋