I can tell my son is getting spoiled but its so hard not to pick him up?

Question

I don't want him to be spoiled, how bad will it really hurt him, will he outgrow it? He's 1yo. He plays on his own but does get in a mood were he wants to be picked up and helded. So I pick him up and then when I need to get up he cries when I put him down.

He used a swing when he was younger. But he's a year old and will not sit still so a swing would be stupid to use. Plus he's to heavy for it now. Maybe you should read what I wrote!!!

Answer 1

It's great that you hold your son! Being held is a need for a baby just like sleeping and eating is. I always think of being "spoiled" more like material things (ex. he screams for a new toy and you buy it). I say hold him as much as you want!!

Answer 2

One even at a year old your son is still a baby sometimes they just need to be held its a comfort to them it's not spoiling and he will out grow it and play more and more on his own. I have a 17 month old and at a year he was the same way. He'd have certin times usually when he would want held. You aren't spoiling him no matter what anyone else tells you as his mother you know what he needs and every baby is different and some need held more then others. But still if you need to get up and do something if you can try giving him a toy in the high chair in what ever room you need to be in. If you are folding cloths or cleaning up talk to him it does help some.

Answer 3

If he needs the odd holding go for it, there's nothing wrong. If you have to get up to get something put him down and tell him you'll be right back and not to cry (lovingly). When you return pick him back up and enjoy the moment.
Picking him up every so often is one thing but if he constantly wants to be picked up and screams when you don't, you've got a problem.
Once he gets older and heads off to school, the comforting and holding seems to disappear ( in a blink of an eye), relish the moment.
I miss that feeling.

Answer 4

He's only one. Pick him up. That's not spoiling him. He is old enough to understand that you will hold him when you can and when you need to do something you need to tell "not now". At times, ask if you can hold him and when he does'nt want to be held tell him it's okay. Keep doing this and he will begin to understand. Enjoy each moment you get the opportunity to love him and hold him. He will begin to outgrow it.

Answer 5

Being only a year old it is perfectly normal to pick up and hold bubs. Sure if bubs were 3 or 4 it would be a problem. If they're not walking than there's more reason to pick them up.

You're doing fine :)

Answer 6

He is still only a baby, you are not spoiling him. When he gets older he wont wont to be held anymore so enjoy it while he still enjoys it.
Its horrible when you ask them for cuddles and they say No as they are too busy playing.

Answer 7

Kneel next to him and hold him. Give him that reassurance. He's still a baby. You're helping him develop trust which will build his confidence. This is not spoiling.Cherish this time. It goes by so quickly.
Lovin' a baby is not spoilin'.........Your desire to give him the reassurance he needs is called motherly instinct....follow it. It's not wrong.
You're a good mom.

Answer 8

i dont like to say peole are spoiling there children when all they are doing is loving them and taking care of them..if you want to always be close to your child you take care of them when they need you...obviously he has seperation anxiety, he needs you dont abandon him he doesnt even know what spoiling is..have you tried a swing?

Answer 9

I say pick him up,when he gets older he is not going to let him hug you

Answer 10

Cherish it while it lasts.