I'm turning 18 soon and want to move out so I can shag well that and other things. I am not her little boy anymore. But I don't know how to tell my mum without getting her to beg me to stay. I have told her before. I skived off school today and posted flatmate want ads. I know I want this. I need the independence.
2007-02-07 14:55:57 · 12 answers · asked by Heathcliff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no, thank goodness! They are more screwed up than me!
2007-02-07 14:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is tough. I'll be twenty in the summer and I don't have any problems living with my mother as she's quite liberal. I also have a lot of friends, the oldest being 23 that still do too, and they're ok with it.
Think about things before you know you are certain you're leaving. Are you ready? Do you know you can budget an independant life? What benefits are there to staying home that you will lose when you move and visa versa.
You said you told her once, what happened? It's awful to feel trapped and needed when you want to get away. Trust me, I know this, sometimes I get frustrated because i have to look after my mother, which means not moving for educational benifits but it's a difficult life me and my mum have had.
Don't rush out straight away, my oldest friend has recently done this without realising he would have problems. It makes his situation worse.
remember above all that she is your mother and maybe she wants to feel needed. Talk about it as a passing wonder before telling it straight. Ask her to help you pack etc. Make sure she knows you'll promise to contact her as much as she wants you to.She may be afraid that you'll be gone forever but as your mother she will want you to be happy. Every mother does.
2007-02-07 23:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by denimpetal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmmmm You must be a rich school boy that can afford a place of your own. I won't bore you by repeating the costs etc involved as othes have told that in their answer. Sorry, but the way your question is worded I am afraid that contrary to what you think you certainly come over a your mum's 'little boy' otherwise you would have asked the question in a more mature way.
2007-02-08 05:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
18 is still quite young of course ibut t's different for everyone. Tell her that you want to try at least and if worst comes to worse and things don't work out then tell her you'll come back but tell her that you just want to try and you feel happier etc.....I'm 19 nearly 20 and I still live at home. I moved out last year for a few months but I realised that it was easier to live at home until I know exactly what I want to do with my life so maybe just think about it before you move out....it may be for the better of course but at least reassure your mum that you'll be ok.
2007-02-07 23:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Seriously Though 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that is what you really want. Living on your own is not something to take lightly. And if you decide to move, be prepared. Your mom knows what it is like and is only trying to protect you-You will always be her "little boy" no matter how old you are. She doesn't want you to make any mistakes.
Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2007-02-07 23:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by HiTekRednek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my mom until I was 20. Her and my dad got a divorce when I was 19, and she had a really hard time with it... I got my own apartment... and things were ok, until I got fired.... nuts to say, I am back with her now, but I live in the basement, which is completely independant from her house, so I can come and go as I please.
2007-02-07 23:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by myparentskid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shag birds at your moms house. I did, she went mad first few times, but then calmed down. Tell her if you don't do it there, you will do it in bus stops and pub toilets.
I moved out at 18, and its hard work.
Make sure you are doing the right thing.
Best of luck..
2007-02-08 05:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Shinny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you're 18 she has no authority over you. Tell her you're not a little kid anymore and its time for you to leave. Its not like you'll never see her again
2007-02-07 23:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Luxurious 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, moved out in the early '70s-many moons ago now.
2007-02-08 03:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, moved in with my fiance last year. I love the freedom.
2007-02-07 23:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i left home at 18.
2007-02-08 04:17:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋