There seems to be a war in this country called the mommy wars between moms who stay home with thier kids and moms who work outside the home and put thier kids in day care. I am an Aunt who takes care of her nieces, It seems like people in general think moms who stay home dont really work and thier is also an "aire" that moms who work dont live within thier means. How can I minister to these moms because it is the hardest occupation thier is because 24/7/365. What can I do to bless and encourage these
moms because ALL moms are working moms Thank you for your answers
2007-02-07 14:51:45 · 7 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Thank you for acknowledging this. I have been a stay at home mom, working part time in between having a 3 year old and 1 year old and it amazes me how stay at home moms are viewed. People react like I am so lucky (and I am) but that is not what they mean....They are insinuating that I am sitting around eating bon-bons with pink fluffy slippers on all day. When I am working part time (2 days a week outide the home) I notice that people react differently like I have a right to be stressed or overwhelmed...But that it should be relaxing when I am at home.
I have worked in my career field for 11 years now and nothing is harder work than being a mom. You don't get a few minutes to use the bathroom or take a coffee break or eat lunch in peace and quiet...You have to be "on" 24/7. Meeting the needs of your children before yourself. It is also hard to feel successful when your day is a never ending circle of feeding, cleaning, correcting, getting juice and crackers and cleaning again...and at the end of the day there is not much to show for it....Your house is still a mess and it all starts over in the early am.
I have found that balancing everything...being a hands on mom...balancing the finances...keeping yourself...and giving everything to your family is a very challenging task...There is not a perfect balance and each person has to find the right balance for their family.
I think the best way you can make a mom feel appreciated is to just acknowledge them...Tell them you are proud of their decision to make their children a priority. And it sounds like you help watch the kids and give them a break...That is such a wonderful thing. And it helps so much to get little breaks here and there to refresh...
Our society does not put motherhood up on a pedastal...Yet there is nothing you will do in your life that will be more important than raising your children...Who will become spouses....parents...leaders....And the legacy you leave behind. It may sound cliche, but it is so true.
To any other stay at home moms out there reading this and feeling unappreciated...Know that you are doing the most important thing you can be doing right now...And you will have your payoff during moments along the way when your child gives you a glimpse of the person they are becoming and you are full of pride and you can know that you helped shape an amazing person and gift from God!
2007-02-07 15:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by LoveMyKids 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't think me offensive but this whole thing really is stupid. Not your question, but the whole stay-at-home mom vs. working mom war thing. Really it doesn't matter, all that matters is that you let your children know that you love them. We just had a daughter three months ago and I love the fact that my wife can stay home with her to care for her, but if she felt like she wanted to get a job and go to work then I would support that. My mother worked and so did my wife's mother and yet we can both tell you about what wonderful parents (both single mothers by the way) we had and how much they did for us and how much time we spent with them. I personally have a very successful career in IT so when our daughter was born my wife was able to make that choice of going to work or staying home. If I wasn't so successful she may not have had that choice and some don't and some do. For the ones that do and decide to go it's not because they don't love their children, for most I believe its because they love their children, they want to provide there children with things that they never had. I will admit that there are those who let their career over take their family life yet that goes the other way as well, there are those who after having children refuse to return to the work place even despite the fact that it’s what is best for them and their family. So I guess my answer is there is nothing you can do to relieve the criticism of one to the other. Neither is right in their criticism of the other. People need to understand that another persons life is there own, and yes there maybe a child they are responsible for but as long as that child is being cared for why does it matter what another person is doing with their life, and what right does another person have to tell someone else that the way they are living is wrong.
2007-02-07 23:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua G 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you know that many working moms are actually a little envious of those of you who stay home and it flips too, many SAHM are envious of those who work.
I think if you try to "minister" you'd be stirring the pot. You should just appreciate what other moms go through and appreciate what you have.
Ive been on both sides of the fence and there are positive things on both sides (I like the stay home part better) BUT there are advantages to working too.
The ONLY thing that matters is that we as "MOMS" stick together and raise healthy productive children. Not whether we work or not.
2007-02-08 10:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Bless YOU for helping me to remember that I am on the right path by staying home with mine. He is almost 3 now and I wouldn't have done this any other way. Looking forward to staying home with another! God bless!
2007-02-07 22:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by ecstaticdevine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love your question.
I think what you are doing right now is a good start.
Also, the fact that you care for your neices is important.
Bless you!
2007-02-07 23:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Croa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank You For This!! I'm a S@HM to a 3yr old and I'm pregnant again. I'm really glad I did it. Its wonderful to see my daughter grow & learn new things!!
2007-02-07 23:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i don't know sorry
2007-02-08 08:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋