I got introduced to my best friends boyfriends roommate this past weekend. We really hit it off. It was totally unepected. I was involved with another guy but knew it wasnt working out. And from what I understand he has never had a girlfriend in college, he never really seems interested in girls at all and everyone was pretty shocked by the situation. I tried to not act interested but i guess he could see it in my eyes. On the last night he held my hand and we kissed and it was amazing. The best kiss of my life! He said i was great and he could really see himself dating me after we got to know eachother. But he knew i had a boyfriend and he respected whatever i wanted to do. i didnt really say much but i left my number by his computer before i left. and he send me a message asking if i got home ok but thats it. i ended it with the guy i was dating. my friends are telling me to call him. but i dont know, wouldnt he call me if he really was interested? what should i do?
2007-02-07 14:50:04 · 13 answers · asked by amtech33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we live 5 hours apart. he lives in dallas and i live in lubbock. he just graduated and is about to go to med school. i am about to graduate. i really like him and think it would be worth it to get to know eachother and see where this can go.
2007-02-07 14:52:03 · update #1
remember when you left your number you were still involved, if he doesn't know that you are no longer involved call him up shoot the breeze and in passing tell him that you are no longer dating anyone and see if he asks you out.
2007-02-07 14:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi you sound like your all stressed out ....First calm down!!! One thing about a real stable relationship is the beginning of it, So far you feel an attraction and your friends roommate may feel the same. That's good. Whats not good is you HAVE a boyfriend. Don't forget that!!! Even if you are or had planned to brake up with your boyfriend, its too late to look 100% free to this new guy. Unfortunately for you is Mr. wonderful (ILL call the new guy) met you knowing your not `100% available. Its not your fault by any means, but the truth is he is probably feeling like you have some baggage which you do,,,and he may not want to get deeply involved right now....I mean put the shoe on the other foot. If you were boy-free like MR< Wounderful is,,,,and you met a guy that had a girlfriend What and how would you really feel about him???First ...how devoted of a person are you??? Brake up and move on?How quickly can you feel for one guy ,,,,before you feel good withen yourself to start to get involved with someone else????I think it takes alot of emotion and effort to have a relationship, and ending a relationship takes time to lose those feelings you build in your heart over some guy. Don't you think Mr. Wounderful is asking himself these questions inside his heart??? Perhaps he feels you may be to quick to action when you still have a guy on your heels??? He may think you may drop him in time since you have already crossed the line of kissing another guy when you still have a guy in your life??? How stabel of a person are you?? Is ok to jump to one guy and bring on the next?? He (Mr. Wounderful) may wounder do you care about your x-boyfriends heart as you are so willing to move on when you yet have to make the official brake up??I'm not trying to be negitive, just trying to open your eyes to how other people may think about relationships. I try to be honest and real. I always felt is easier to stop a relationship all the way,,,,,before opening your self to a new relationship. I'm sure (Mr. Wounderful) may wounder if this how you treat all the men in your life. Kissing behind their backs?? I may be wrong, but truthfully, a boy-friend is spercial, and to many treat relationships shallow. Be careful, don't be so forward, and I would wait and not call Mr, Wounderful yet. You have some housecleaning to do, your soon to be x-boy-friend needs to be out of the scene. Than you'll be 100% ready for Mr. Wounderful and hopefully a strong relationship if he is ready for you, Take it easy good guys are hard to find. Also, you make a name for yourself by the way you treat people (Relationships)..So hopefully you'll have a clean slate, take life and relationships serious.... you'll have a happier Life <
2007-02-07 23:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call him and tell him that you are very interested in getting to know him better and that you'd like to take him to a movie and out to dinner. You could mention that you are no longer seeing your boyfriend, but it would be better not to bring the b/f up at all, in my humble opinion.
If he is interested in you, he will accept. Remember, guys go through this routine all the time (should I, shouldn't I). So, don't leave it up to him -- if he thinks you are involved with someone else and he is a nice guy, he certainly won't call you and jeopardize your current relationship. By you making the call, he'll know you are available. Good luck!
2007-02-07 22:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lois M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"wouldnt he call me if he really was interested?".....YES. I personally believe that women shouldn't chase men, men should chase women and the woman can decide if she wants to be caught or not. Men are hunters by instinct. You can weed through the ones who will be a waste of your time, your attention and emotion by only seeing the ones who come after you. You may not go out with as many guys, but so what? Quality counts more than quantity. No, this isn't a mind-game. Like I said, it's a way of weeding out. I personally wouldn't want a guy unless he has the desire, confidence and aggressiveness to go after what he wants.
2007-02-07 23:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Em 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the first move by leaving him your number. Some times you can't wait for the guy to make the second move. Maybe you should go ahead and call him and ask him out. You're interested and so is he so there really isn't any problem, especially since you're no longer attached to another guy. I say go for it!
2007-02-07 22:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Just♥Brie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him. He left the last message so it is your turn to reciprocate. He's probably thinking that you're back with your boyfriend because he texted you last and you didn't get back with him. He is interested. He asked if you got home ok. That's a guy's way of saying, "you're pretty cool, and I wish you would call so that we can do this again."
2007-02-07 23:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Shock and Awe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want this guy you will have to be willing to take a chance. What if he is waiting for you to make the first move. What if he is so willing to be with you but just too afraid to approach you .
Your heart is thumping and time is running out by trying to play the "chase me" game. Step out of your comfort zone and go and get your prize. You will kick yourself for not trying.
Hide and wait by the phone and you'll never know the outcome.
2007-02-07 22:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is it written that girls can't call guys? Maybe he is thinking the same thing about you that if you were into him, you would be calling him? Communication is a two way street between men and women. It's not up to the man to make it a one way.
2007-02-07 22:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by varmitterminator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem if you want to call him just to say hi and how are you. If he is receptive to your call, you will know it and if he isn't interested, you probably won't hear from him again. Give it a try as you have nothing to lose. Good luck.
2007-02-07 22:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him I bet he is debateing the exact same thing do it before its to late
2007-02-07 22:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋