any advice on this...my man and i have been together for 2-3 months and a few of his exs have been texting him while he is at work. we came to an agreement that if i stopped talking to an ex of mine that he would tell his to stop as well. well i told my ex to stop calling me (my man was there when this occurred) that is was causing problems between me and my man and he understood. well my man's exs are not getting it, they want to be friends and want to talk to me. i don't understand???
2007-02-07 14:48:07 · 13 answers · asked by vanilla_dipped_rican 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well thanks to all that have responded! he tells me now that he told this ex goodbye and not to text anymore...so i guess i should leave it at that...or should i text her myself too cause he gave me her number!
2007-02-07 15:14:42 · update #1
I think that first of all you guys should get new numbers! Then if you still keep having the problem with him he just isn't ready to settle down. Having them as friends won't help very much. You never know what type of people they really are?
2007-02-07 14:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by florecitarivera 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't understand either. I think your man should be man enough to cut them out of his life. He doesn't owe them anything. So he shouldn't text message back. nothing. They will start to get it after a while then they realize that they''re not in control. When he talks to them. It gives them hope and now they want to be your friend????????? I don't think so! Sound like they're up to no good if you ask me. You should have a talk with your man more. If he doesn't do something soon.......things with you and him will get worse. He's now with you and he should be focusing on his and your future His exs will have to a life!
2007-02-07 14:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by ********* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the trust is there, you have nothing to worry about. These other girls are just wanting to keep him as a friend, and they feel that in order to do so, they need to get to know you. Sounds like your current boyfriend wants to control who you talk to. As long as all it is talking he shouldn't have any problems with that. Just think about getting to know these girls, if only for finding out if there is still anything else going on. Keep your eyes open and good luck.
2007-02-07 14:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you two cant come to an agreement, then you should also be able to be "friends" with your ex as well...because, honestly your boyfriend is being a hypocrite otherwise.
He doesn't sound very trust worthy, but you should at least talk to him, and let him know how you feel.
2007-02-07 14:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes an EX is just that.
I didn't want to date an old boyfriend, yet we had been just friends for many many years. His girlfriend got all up in my face over it.
I was shocked by her insecurity and lack of trust over this man.
I told her the truth. We are much better friends, like brother and sister and she was totally safe from me. I'm very happy she was in his life and wanted them to be very happy together. It only took her 10 years to finally believe me. She saw "us" her husband and I bickering like siblings over something one day and cracked up.
She came clean and told me that she was "jealous" of me. I hugged and said I know. I was "jealous" of her, she loved him the way I always wanted too and never could and he loved her with all his heart -the way he never loved me.
I was only a "romantic" image in his mind, things were never good, hence that is why we are friends and not happily married like you. She cried and we have been best of buds since then. I laugh and call him my second husband- the "handy" one.
2007-02-07 14:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as far as i can go with this is.. that.. they want to be your friend so they can come to a conclusion on where or how well your relationship is going.. and personally.. this may be a sign that there is something goin on there that you do not know about.. Do not be friends with them.. they will only try to sabotage what you have with him.. but i would demand out of respect for yourself that he... tell them to stop. That is not to much to ask. Plus if he is responding to them.. then he is encouraging them to keep doing it..
2007-02-07 14:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by GirlWithQuestions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes not hiding it from you and they arnt trying to start something whats the problem? when me and mine were at 2-3 months he had exs calling him for booty!
Meet these girls maybe they want to be friends with him still and know thats not possible if you dont like them
2007-02-07 14:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't like for my boyfriend to keep talking to his Ex's,but if you trust him and you know he only has eyes for you and no one else don't worry about it. Plus it's better to keep a close eye on them well that's what I think
2007-02-07 15:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please! That is his problem. If it was really like YOU THINK between you two, his EX wouldn't be texting him. Ask him to get a new number or something, but that's unacceptable. A TRUST issue, and if you don't TRUST him, then you don't need to be with him. DON'T Be STUPID though!!
2007-02-07 14:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tsmoove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like that. But I am a very private person. Tell him it's not appropriate and that you feel they are trying to get in-between you two.
2007-02-07 14:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mokimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋