I am getting married apr 7 and my fiance has moved in, but nobody knows yet except her brother (since he has the house that she is supposed to be living at) We are mailing out the invitations and her brother is now mad at her, so we can't use his address..........so who's address should we put as the return address? mine? parents? If it is the party paying for the wedding, we are both paying for it......what do I do?
2007-02-07 14:43:24 · 12 answers · asked by carguy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Oh, and not only whose address, but whose name should we put in the return address? Thanks!
2007-02-07 14:45:50 · update #1
If the Brides Parents are "Hosting" the wedding then their name and address go as the return, Otherwise it is the Brides name and address.You can put the brothers address on the envelopes with your intendeds name and put in a forwarding order with the US Postal Service so she gets them at your address.That will keep your secret!
2007-02-07 14:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Serenayowlerlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with Jenna. I believe that traditionally, the return addresses should be addressed to the bride's parents, and sent to their home. however, in modern weddings, it's okay to change this up. For example, if the couple is paying for the entire wedding, some brides will put their own name and address on the return envelopes. It does very much depend on who is 'hosting' the wedding; in your case, I would probably use your fiancee's name and address. it's more traditional to stick with the bride's name, although in this day and age, i geuss technically it doesn't matter. keep in mind that just because you use her name, doesn't mean that people will assume she is covering the whole tab! If you're using her name at all, and not the parents name, they will most likely assume that you guys are splitting costs between yourselves.
Congrats!!!
2007-02-07 14:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by mlle-fantine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did was I put my address with no names, because I was the one keeping a head count as the RSVP cards came in. I believe if you are wanting to do what "Miss Manners" would say you are to use the Brides parents as the return address. But, these days do what is the most practical. Hope this helps. Congrats!
2007-02-07 15:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget5493 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put your address, this way it will get straight to the source, have your name first than hers at the end so the address name will get to you for sure. You need to have both names on or it will look strange. Just do your address your name than her name at the end. Make sure to put the dead line date when you want these back so it will give you more time to know how many people will be coming for the reception, it there is one.
2007-02-07 14:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put both of your names, and use your address. Everyone will just assume that the reason is because she will be moving into your home afterward, and not the other way around. At least this way, if someone is unable to go to the wedding and they wish to send the both of you something, you will both be there when it arrives and can open it together. Congrats
2007-02-07 14:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the return address, put the address you want the RSVPs to be sent to AND the address you want gifts sent to. It really doesn't matter if they're hosting it or not.
I suggest using one of your parents addresses (preferably hers). Sometimes guests mail gifts after the wedding, but you'll be away on your honeymoon and won't be there to accept them, so they'll get sent back.
2007-02-08 02:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
normally on the invites it is the brides parents names and address or bride's name and address that goes on the return address depending on who is paying for the majority of the wedding and who is announcing it.
2007-02-07 14:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Name-the bride's. Address-hers/yours. Congrats! Take care.
2007-02-07 14:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our invites have our address (we live together), the RSVP cards have the same address, of course, with both of our last names. Like, Mary Johnson & John Smith, it would be Johnson-Smith. I didn't like putting either of our names or both of our names, so I just picked the last names.
2007-02-08 10:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would put your address, its where you will be recieving mail. If people question her or you, just say that its easier for both you of if they are sent to your place since she is there so much and most of your planning materials are there.
But honestly, if your getting married, its a little immature of you both to be afraid to tell people you are living together.
2007-02-08 00:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋