A disturbed fren needs my input on this. Hope I could get some straight honest answers from as many men out there. Here goes...
Her bf has not initiated sex (but has been teasing her through touching and groping while she walks by or washes the dishes) for two weeks now. He's always on the pc but not being secretive about it. He'll even tell her what he was busy with online. He's just got himself a resident visa to another country and seems to be preoccupied this as well as with other matters like securing the purchase of an apartment in Europe (investment) and joining a local Harley Owner Group. He does not ask her out much and seems to be more interested in going out for drinks with his colleagues.
He's 34 and she's 32. Living together for close to 3 years now.
What do you think is going on with him? She's a little depressed now. What advice could I offer her? Is he taking her for granted? It seems to me like he is. In any case, we thank you for your honest answers.
2007-02-07 14:42:06 · 10 answers · asked by snoringcouchprincess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha..of course they have been having sex. Just that the last time was two weeks back.
Oh, he's got a visa for work in Australia and she will join him later.
The apartment is in Berlin where it'll be be rented out.
2007-02-07 15:05:03 · update #1
Yup, she's helped him choose the apartment which is in Berlin. His visa is for Australia.
2007-02-07 15:10:13 · update #2
I would say he might be gay. I am gay. I would play that off as flirting. Tell her to move on.
2007-02-07 14:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you saying they've been living together for 3 years and never had sex?? or only the past 2 weeks? ..bottom line, sounds like the girl needs to communicate her wants and needs to the guy in this case. if he's interested in all these other things, then that's fine, but he also should give her some time, attention, and love.. but he may think she isn't looking for more time, attention and love.
it also sounds like he wants to leave if he has a resident visa and is planning to buy property, even if investment.. he may have something to hide. who knows? why all of a sudden is he interested in this other country? who is over there??
2007-02-07 22:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 34 it could be alot of things, a mid-life crisis... but not likely. When I hit 27 I was in a similar situation. I realized that id done very little with my life, and while my girlfriend was great, I wanted to experience life a little more. I started going out and drinking doing a whole bunch of crazy crap and just living like a cowboy. I imagine she went through much the same thing you did. Just sit down and talk to him, ask him directley. If he wont give you a straight answer... Dump his ***.
2007-02-07 22:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems obvious that his interests and energy is bring directed elsewhere....He's busy making connections to leave the country , is getting a visa and securing an apartment.....Hummm..? He's on the computer......
He's getting ready to bounce....European Apt+ Visa+being holed up on the PC doesn't = cheating BUT it looks like he's getting ready to take that European trip and set up housekeeping elsewhere.!
Are they a couple? Does she have a say in his investments ?
2007-02-07 22:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by cesare214 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since we men do not have the power to read minds, we simply can't tender an opinion on this. I think it is up to her to have a serious talk 1/1 with her boyfriend to iron out this issue, and addresse the questions.
2007-02-07 22:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by varmitterminator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is tagging along for the ride, but he has other plans which won't include her.
Your friend KNOWS this which is why she is depressed.
He is not necessarily cheating but is preparing to move on right in front of her eyes.
2007-02-07 22:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the love takes its course.
2007-02-07 22:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Infinite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she thinx he is...then he is...her gut is right and she knows it...glad to heaar yur there to support her...she needs yur help and thats what yur doing...I TY FOR THAT AND I KNOW SHE DUZ....she just needs to end it now and move on...she'll get over him qwik like i betchya...take her out and meet new people.....YURaddy74 is me if u 2 need more
2007-02-07 22:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants her to show she's horny and grab his dick
2007-02-07 22:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk out......Run
2007-02-07 22:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Rhinorm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋