im wondering cause every guy iv been with iv had to leave because all they want is SEX.....Are they all the same? How do i no?
2007-02-07 14:40:45 · 19 answers · asked by mackenzie c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. They may say no. But the answer is yes. As men get older they realize sex isn't the only thing about a relationship. But what never changes is that it is an important part of a relationship. I don't know your age but you sound young. Don't be naive. Be patient and wait until it's right for you, not them.
2007-02-07 14:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by castzpg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all men are the same. I for one want a real relationship, sex for me is something that would come eventually in a relationship, but only when she wants to, if not then I'll respect her decision. Don't lose hope, real men are out there, but then again, I'm one of the most decent guys in the face of this planet, so I don't know, I guess that yeah it's 1 out of 10. Good luck.
2007-02-07 14:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Loving Life, Always, and Forever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mostly, they want sex. At least eventually. But that doesn't mean there aren't tons of guys who are willing to respect your wishes and wait for you. I've dated a lot of guys, and never had sex with any of them. Its never been a problem. I've been with my current boyfriend for more than three years. He teases me about it sometimes, but its no big deal.
My advise is to be up front from the beginning. You don't have to say "Hi, I'm ______, but I don't want to have sex with you." But the first time anything sexual comes up, even in a joking sense, you can just put it out there. As far as signs go...if a guy is trying to get in your pants on the first or second date, its a good sign that he just wants sex. If he does not spend very much time getting to know you, its because he doesn't want to know you, he just wants sex. If he looks you in the eyes when you talk (or, at least, doesn't just look at your breasts), he seems genuinely curious about what you like and dislike, he asks about your day with follow-up questions, then you've probably found a guy who will respect your needs.
2007-02-07 14:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by hot teacher 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of things can contribute to that, one is where are you meeting these guys? The bar, through friends, in the grocery store? As I have a really good friend and yet we are also friends with benefits. It's one of he best relationships I've ever had with anyone because the lines a CLEARLY draw. We talk comfortably about anything to each other, we take care of our needs and yet we're not together. So there are guys out there but you need to draw a line and let them know what your looking for.
2007-02-07 14:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good Christian would want a relationship and then marriage. Some follow the rest of the Godless world. The rest of the world thinks of a relationship second and if they seem to want a real relationship its because its a means to an end.
2007-02-07 14:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetpea, I've been with my boyfriend for some time. We havent "taken the step" yet, but everything is great. We're learning to know each other more and actually enjoy each other's company without all the sexual confusions and it's been great. I'm having a blast, and we're happy together. We do other things together, like watch hockey, cook together, we go to church together and it's just great. I never thought i'd find some one that way, but you know what, fate brought us together I say (really because we met in pure luck). So dont lose heart. Great guys are out there. :)
2007-02-07 15:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by diamant152001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my honest opinion, I think most guys (myself being one) have a sex DRIVE, but that doesn't mean that sex is all that matters to every guy. Many guys just don't feel like practicing something called self control.
But let me tell you, there are guys out there that will want to have sex with you, but not pressure you about it. What I mean is that the want to have sex will probably be there with most guys, but if the guy really cares about you, his respect for you will outweigh his hormones, and he will leave the timing completely up to you.
You just have to be patient, the guy who cares more about you than he does about sex is out there looking for you, and someday he'll find you.
2007-02-07 14:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by J-Mar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance wouldn't have proposed & still be by my side after 2 years if he didn't want a relationship but it doesn't mean he doesn't want action. I get bugged every night for some, don't get me wrong... he's well taken care of ;)
Some guys want sex and lots of action, 90% will grow out of their playboy ways and want to settle down when they find a girl that knocks them off their feet.
It's just a matter of growing up & maturing.
2007-02-07 14:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO!
If you want to meet a guy who doesn't want SEX in a relationship, I know of a few good cemetaries. . .
And finally, you need to hold back on giving up the kuda a little bit longer to weed out the "real" guys from the "fake" ones.
2007-02-07 14:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 in every 10 want a real relatinship
but the other 9 probably want some kind of action
2007-02-07 14:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by LuCKyNUmBeRShaDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋