I've been interested in becoming mormon but I'm afraid they wont accept me because I'm a single parent. I've read that they look down on single parents, even if you're divorced. Is this true?
2007-02-07 14:23:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not sure where you've read about them looking down on single parents, buy you are incorrect. There may be individuals who look down upon you, but that can happen in any religion or any community. The Church is accepting of all people regardless of their background or life situations. I'm Mormon, but I'm married to an agnostic. I was a little cautious and thought people may look down upon me for marrying outside the faith, but everyone is awesome and it isn't an issue. I thought it may prevent me from doing certain things in the church also, but I was wrong. I'm currently in the Elders Quorum Presidency (not that you know or need to know what that means). No one is perfect and they don't expect you to be. My best friend from high school (who was Mormon) got married, then divorced, then married a woman with three children, and they are happy as could be. Follow your heart and look to God for assurance in your decisions. I do know that I have made the right choice in being Mormon and discovered this through study and prayer. Good luck.
2007-02-08 04:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by straightup 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You know what, there are 3 huge, and I mean HUGE singles wards in Salt Lake City for single members age 31 to 45. Some of my best friends are divorced. It's the 21st Century after all, and really people have gotten used to the word "divorce" by now. There are several huge singles websites for Church members of all activity levels to meet people. There are singles dances and singles activities all the time. If you have children under the age of 18 then you will probably do well to go to a family ward and attend any singles activities in the area. Also there are singles conferences in different cities. I've been to them in Boise, Idaho, and San Diego, California, and Phoenix, Arizona. Also, since President Gordon B. Hinckley, our prophet and head of the Church was widowed, he is single, too!
Thank you for being brave enough to post a question about anything Mormon here. It seems like every question attracts a bunch of answers which don't even come from Mormons or people who have much experience. I send you a virtual gummy bear :)
2007-02-08 02:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie777 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT. I have several friends in my ward that are single Mom's. They are not treated any different than anyone else - except that sometimes, depending on the age of the kid, someone might offer to hold the baby during a meeting - to give the Mother a break. Also, as someone who does not have the priesthood in the home (I fall into this category as well as I'm single), the wards I've been in try to make sure you have good (aka ones that come) Home Teachers. But single parents are never looked down upon for being single, or divorced, or anything like that. I'm not saying that there might not be people out there who happen to be members of the church who view single parents like this, but that's their boneheaded problem - they are not representative of the church as a whole.
2007-02-08 15:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The Mormon Church is for everyone who has the sincere desire to learn. The best place to go to know about Mormonism is to talk to a Mormon. If you talk to anyone else, you are probably not going to get the whole truth. If you want to know about Burger King, you would not get the whole truth from McDonald's. Go to the source.
Mormon's accept all people, whether they be single, married, old, young, blue or green. Just seek the truth and have a sincere heart.
2007-02-09 11:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No matter what has been previously posted, mormons as a whole DO NO SUPPORT singles, or single parents, You job in the LDS church is to lose your identity and become a mother - forever. The missionaries won't tell you this, but that's the 'highest tier' in mormondom: being a mother for eternity. At best you'll be continually 'set up' with single LDS men who for some reason cannot remain married. At worst, you'll be shunned and criticised by the good 'sisters' who will claim you're making their husbands have 'evil thoughts'.
I wish I were making this up - go to exmormon.org and see the other side of the argument before comitting yourself.
Do a google search for "Famous Mormon Women" and see how dismal the results are.
2007-02-09 16:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Dances with Poultry 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not true. You've read wrong about the LDS looking down on single parents. The only problem you might have in joining the church is if you are cohabitating with a boyfriend or anyone as if you are married to that person.
To become baptized, you must refrain from playing house with someone not your spouse.
2007-02-07 22:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not true, we do not look down on anyone coming from any circumstance. The church actually offers help to the members that need it too financially. The church would never discriminate against a person's circumstances, we invite ALL no matter what/who to come unto Christ and partake of the blessings of the gospel. Contact your local missionaries - or I can if you need help - and they can answer any questions you have.
I love the church because, especially as a woman, we have the Relief Society and the women are there to lean on each other and help eachother in any situation.
2007-02-08 13:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know where you read that, but it isn't true. There is a lot of support from the LDS church for singles.
And you aren't forced to have 10% of your paycheck automatically withdrawn and given to the the Church. The really great thing about the LDS church is that you aren't forced to do anything! It's called free agency and it's a wonderful thing.
2007-02-08 11:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by LaraSue 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, we don't look down on people... In fact, there are programs run by the Church to help financially and otherwise. As long as you don't live with a non-spouse, then you can become LDS quite easily, and you will be accepted with open arms.
2007-02-08 15:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Beast8981 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That is completely untrue. My dad is a strong mormon and his paretns are divorced and I know plenty of single mormon parents, they will gladly accept you, you don't have to worry at all.
2007-02-08 21:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Tcg_13 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋