I have my husband with 2 sons, but I feel unhappiness because I found I was in fact a lesbian after I lived with my husband for 4 years . To find my true love, I join one great lesbian dating club(http://www.ldate.com/i/lesbianclub)... and incredible that I found my soul mate about one month later. She also love me very much. We had a great online chat and I could not wait to have a chat with her face to face. After having a face to face chat with her, she said she could not live without me, she wanted me to marry her asap. I also would like to marry her, but should I desert my husband and two sons? Please tell me how to deal with the problem, I am really in a bad mood and do not know how to do.
2007-02-07 14:22:49 · 20 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG ARE YOU FOR REAL??DOES YOUR HUSBAND KNOW THAT YOU ARE ONLINE CHATING WITH A GIRL AND THAT YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR HER...NO I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE YOUR KIDS THAT SHOULDN'T EVEN BE IN YOUR THOUGHTS..ITS YOUR CHILDREN AND YOU ARE THINKING ABOUT LEAVING THEM FOR SOMEONE YOU JUST MET... IF YOU LEAVE THEM THEN YOU ARE NOT A GOOD PARENT, YOU SHOULDN'T OF GOT IN MARRIED IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE FEELING FOR HIM OR IF YOU THOUGHT THAT THERE WAS A POSSIBILITY THAT YOU WERE A LESBIAN
2007-02-07 14:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by Aracely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'll be the party pooper yes a woman knows what a woman wants to hear & what to do to make her feel best (sex) and maybe even make her think she is gay but then she may just be filling a need for love and affection you're not getting from your husband most of us are not real good at showing our feelings ,but you did give each other 2 children that you love or you would'nt care if you lose them or not your girlfriend cant do that & how will she accept your boys,so listen to your heart and ask your self how would I feel if I found out my mom left dad for another woman??? please be sure, it is going to affect more lives than just yours,this may be a one way trip no going back
2007-02-07 23:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by slapjack458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey who am I: Butt only 2 can chew. good luck 2 you, her and your hubby and the 2 KIDS INVOLVED!!!!!!!! Chat on and maybe next week someone else will wanna marry u 2 and the KIDS can have even more PARENTS!!!!! The MORE THE MERRIER!!!!! GROW UP !!! that's the way to deal w/ the problem. You married, had 2 wonderful children and you're ready to throw it away on a silly online chat???? remember a camel toe in the face is not worth two in the bush.
2007-02-07 22:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You found your "soul mate" after chatting online for only one month, even though you've been married for 4 years with two sons. What's the matter, you didn't like the sex with your husband for all that time and you were just faking it? yeah right.
shame on you. you should tell your husband so he doesn't waste any more of his time with your sorry ***
2007-02-07 22:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I don't get about gays, how can you find out later in life that your not attracted to the male sex?
Personally the idea of having sex with a man repulses me and I've been this way forever.
The answer you want to hear is yes!
However, that's not the truth.
The fact is your going to hurt your children and husband b/c you all the sudden had a sudden change.
2007-02-07 22:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by Joel C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy with your marriage, you'll probably end up breaking it off anyways. I say that you have a very very long chat with your husband- tell him that you've had a realization, something so mind-blowing that you know directly harms your relationship with him. And tell him that you can only be happy if you had the both of your lovers in your life. Take a break from him, but never ever disconnect completely from your family. They have to learn to accept your new lifestyle.
2007-02-07 22:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anodyne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its never too late to find out you are a lesbian ,,nothing wrong with it,, you how ever do not desert your 2 children,, you can your husband, or stay with him and share,sure he wouldnt mind,,he might like it.. as far as the kids and you want to leave the husband, leave the kids with him, they are still yours and you can visit them anytime you like.. the taste of a woman can go along way...........
2007-02-07 22:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kinda sucks for your husband maybe you should have been abit more upfront with him about some underneath feelings you might have. oh well for that part i guess but please be advised that if you find out later that your not really a lesbian and try to get em back he is going to tell you to go f---- yourself so please make sure you want to throw away your marriage before acting on this. if you really think its love embrace it whole heartedly and don't screw her over like you did your husband.
2007-02-07 22:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know 2 much about that but u have 2 go with ur heart do u love her more than ur family plus think about ur sons wat if the kids at school found out they would b humiliated 4 having a lesbian 4 a mother they could have very low selfestem n u know wat most kids do when they cant take to much pain
2007-02-07 22:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by memphisgutta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your husband and kids. u made a commitment to your husband, and him to u. now u have two sons, raise them right, with both a Mommy and a Daddy
2007-02-09 13:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by C S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋