There is girl that I dated from Oct. '05-Oct. '06. She is currently 16 and I have just turned 19. The relationship got serious, we had very strong feelings for each other (love), yet we also had some flaws. However, I believe that our relationship was truly amazing. I went away to college and things got difficult. Eventually she broke up with me claiming she wanted space. It was very rough for me to go through this. Since then there have been ups and downs but we have remained somewhat close. Lately (the past two or so weeks) she has showed obvious signs of having feelings for me, but never exactly admitted to it. I was all for getting back together and starting back over. She has ignored me the past couple of days but yesterday came out and said that she had zero feelings for me but for someone else. She denies the fact that she had feelings for me as recent as a week ago, though I know that she did from her words and actions. I will add more...
2007-02-07 14:08:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just would like to know if this is wrong of her to do by leading me on and so suddenly coming out of the blue and turning her back on me like she has done? She will hardly talk to me about it and doesn't have much more to say other than "sorry." My feelings for her are very strong and there's nothing more than I want than to be with her. I believe I have covered everything but if you have any other information you'd like in order to respond, let me know. Thanks.
2007-02-07 14:11:24 · update #1
I forgot to add that it is no longer a long distance relationship as I transferred home for the spring semester due to the fact that I happened to not like the school I attended and wanted to start the relationship over and fix things, as she had given me the clue that this was possible.
2007-02-07 14:14:00 · update #2
I never wanted it to be so typical, but I really do love this girl and I know that we can have something amazing. Say I do want her back, any suggestions on how to try to make that happen?
2007-02-07 14:18:53 · update #3
Talk to her
2007-02-07 14:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having a relationship from a distance can be very hard for couples, especially when your young. I think that you guys should give each other a break. She's young and still in her teens, living according to her age and point of view. You are maturing and entering the adult world. This first year is going to be very tough on you because your breaking away from everything that's familiar and comfortable to you: your school, family, friends, and girlfriend. But your going to discover many things and people and your going to move on with your life. What's happening to you now is painful, but is helping you grow even if you don't realize it right now. Good luck and finish college.
2007-02-07 14:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a college student, you have responsibilities to do your class work and forget all this young love stuff. And a 16 or 17 year old is going to want to expand their horizons and meet new people.Welcome to young love--millions belong to this club. She sounds as if she has met new people---you should be too---way too young for this serious stuff--you won't last and that's a fact. You have strapped down a 16 year old who has came to her senses---time for you to do the same---get a grip and enjoy the world----you don't need to have all this stress---go to school--your future depends on it. Good luck and I hope you understand. Date casually and I'm sure you'll have success.
2007-02-07 14:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think she feels, for a reason you don't know, confused about the relationship you two have had, and she wants to make you believe she does not longer love you.
Maybe she thinks that, because you are at the college, you won't give her more time.
2007-02-07 14:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by Princeps 1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay this kinda what me n my boyfriend are going through but hes not in college but they only let me out 1ce a week and well i did the same thing look im doing that right now i dont know how to tell him that i cant be with him no more because we dont see each other so i denied that i ever love'd him oh what ever , u know . so my suggestion to uis just to leave her as much as u love her leave her n find some one else she probly doesnt wana be with you no more??? who knows try talking to her seriously okay ... good luck !!!
2007-02-07 14:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by venecia a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Common girl thing...lol. You will learn that men do it too. Basically, she wants to be broken-up but she doesn't want you to go away so quickly...she wants to know that you still like her and that you'd still be interested in her....this is what it is like when you like someone but you want to experiece other people without the hassle of being committed to anyone. Your ex is learning about playing the field...You can't argue with her about it because she does like you but she doesn't want to feel pressure of being with anyone...she's not doing it on purpose, its a matter of how she's feeling right now.
2007-02-07 14:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by chyna0069 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely normal. She's probably really confused and still has feelings to let go of you, but she doesn't want to go back to the previous situation. Long-distance relationships are extremely difficult to maintain.
2007-02-07 14:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anodyne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls man. lame. they just dont know what they want. im sorry dude. sounds exactly what i was trying to do, same ages. except she broke up with me a couple days ago saying "itd be too hard". wow. man. i feel for you, i truely do. hopefully it will all get better. shes prolly just scared that youd have liked college girls more anyway. dude. man im sorry. life is rough
2007-02-07 14:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Learning To Fly (again) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are dealing with a 15-year-old, what did you expect? Move on. Besides, you could end up getting yourself into more trouble than just stupid teenage girl stuff if you know what I mean.
2007-02-07 14:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like she is very confused about how she relay feels an is not ready to stay with one person yet . if you want to hang in there , go ahead but be sure she wants to be with you so you are not hurt while she is making up her mind . . as life is very short you also need to be as happy as you can be yourself . remember you also have the right to be happy
2007-02-07 14:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has feelings for you, but not the feelings you are looking for. If she said she wanted space then you have to let her have this. If she wants to be with you she will let you know.
2007-02-07 14:13:15 · answer #11 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋