The dad is and always has been aware that he is not his biological father.
2007-02-07 14:04:18 · 16 answers · asked by heeeeelp! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that you could expect all types of responses...but the real important factor is whether or not he has someone to talk to...
I lived that situation out....my brother had the same thing happen to him...and until this day, he is still a little unstable emotionally and it is hard for him to make good decisions...
He still acts out even in his adult life...
So I would say Definitely let him know, but have a list of counselors prepared so that he is able to have someone to talk to that will help him sort things out....
Furthermore, I think that reinforcing the fact that his "now Dad" is like his real dad...forever...because he loves unconditionally....
But, pray...and I am sure things will work out!!!!
Keep in touch if you need to talk....
2007-02-07 14:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should have told your child a loooong time ago. The younger they are the easier it is for them to accept these types of things. IF you are planning on telling him now, beware, he may act out and rebel out of anger and hurt. Get some counseling sessions set up for him and the rest of the family and make sure his Dad(not the biological father) is there to let him know that he has always known that he wasn't his biological father but he looks at him as a son no matter what. This is gonna be a hard thing to do so good luck and I hope it works out for the best.
2007-02-07 22:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother found out that very same thing when he was 6 but he had always spent time with both fathers so he was a little confused but comfortable with the whole change. I would imagine that your son at 15 might feel very angry, betrayed and may not be able to trust you ever again. Take it slow and be gentle.
2007-02-07 22:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his dad, (the one that has raised him), has been in his life since he was little, then he is his father. Because he is the one who raised him and took him in. The only way your son will find this out is if you tell him. I think that you should not tell him anything. Your son sees him 'already' like a father. So don't go and ruin this relationship between them. What they have going together is father and son, and that is what matters to your son. (smile)
2007-02-07 22:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner you tell your son the better. He really should have been told this when he was younger but do it now before he finds out some other way.He has a right to know the truth. He will have a lot of questions so be prepared to answer him truthfully. Have your husband with you when you tell him so he can tell your son how much he loves him and will always think of him as his son.
2007-02-07 22:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that he might become rebelious against his "father". He might feel that you didn't trust him enough to tell him this along time ago, but the hardest part for you might be that he would want to know about and meet his biological father.
2007-02-07 23:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by cheerchick11292 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing how your son is, this would be guessing...Most people i know, i myself included...I found out my Aunt was my grandmother, i think i was 18 at the time...Well, your son could be angry about it, if he and his dad get along, then he just may not care, like myself i really didn't care.
You need to tell him, if he is unstable in any way, sorry again i don't him, then i would wait, this could effect his schooling and emotional health.....But he will need to know, you pick the right time....
2007-02-07 22:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that your son when acting out will throw this in the face of the man who has been acting as his father to try and disobey him.
but most of all there going to be curiousity as to who his real father is and maybe some bitternes that he hasn't been part of his life.
2007-02-07 22:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised in the same way. I always thought that my moms husband was my dad. It was not any dif. when I found out that he wasn't. If he doesn't know yet you better tell him before someone else does. That was my problem .... I had to find out from someone else....It kinda made me mad at both of them. He really needs to know.Now before he gets any older.
2007-02-07 22:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Carmella C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son might be mad at you if you tell him but he will understand if you tell him the story and why u want to tell him and say it in a nice way slow and calm and even if he does get mad at you at least you know you did the right thing
2007-02-07 22:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋