Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year. We have had some rough patches though, like in the summer and fall. Ever since October things have been going well. I have a serious problem, though. Whenever I get mad at him or the relationship gets rocky for some reason as revenge or out of need for attention I turn to other guys. I do not do anything that you would call cheating but I do flirt with them. I do not even realize what I am doing. You might call flirting "harmless" but this usually leads the guy on into liking me and then it is really hard to get out of the situation. Today I started flirting with his best friend and soon he told me that he wanted to do things with me and he likes me. My boyfriend is usually very understanding when I tell him I have flirted with other guys. This time he is really mad at his friend though but he is not mad at me. I did lead his friend on, though. I do not want to ruin their friendship. How do I stop myself from flirting? Help me!!
2007-02-07 13:54:11 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Immediately stop you habit of flirting with others when you are having a sincere & lovely B/F. Its a human nature when a person likes someone he can't tolrate her or him flirting with others. So be sincere in your love if you wish to enjoy it. Try to get satisfied with what you have with you.
2007-02-07 14:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you came from a rough childhood. The only lifestyle you're subconsciously use to is one of drama and pain because thats what is normal to you. Confront whomever hurt you by letting them know how scared you felt and how abandoned your heart was. Once you do that, forgive them with all your heart and you will get better. You'll start to know what it is to respect yourself and love yourself. People only can continue to speak and treat you in the manner you allow them to. You deserve peace and will have it only when you're ready to allow it. Stop destroying what can be good. Hope I didn't offend you. If I'm way off base I apologize.
2007-02-07 22:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are older than 14, than you find another way to deal with the "rocky" events in the relationship.
I don't understand, how you CAN'T realize what you are doing at the time.
A relationship does NOT mean : to be happy only in the good times, and bail out when it gets rough.
2007-02-07 22:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Venom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was wrong, but your bf's friend shoulda known better than to put the moves on you. your bf has every right to be upset at his friend., he's not much of a friend if he was willing to sleep with his friends's gf.
but back to you... if you are constatnly flirting with other guys, no matter what the reason, this is a sign that you are not ready or comfortable with your existing relationship.. breaking up might be best, so you can both find better compatible partners.
2007-02-07 22:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it, you need to get more female friends to talk to. The way I see it, trying tell guys you can't date your problems is a bad move in itself, because that shows trust, and people take that as a chance for a relationship.
2007-02-07 21:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Eric B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being flirty. If you feel like you need to flirt, flirt with yo man that is what he's there for. You should never come in between your man and his friends. Now he's mad at his friend because you wanted to be a little hooker and throw you pussy at him.
2007-02-07 22:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by keisha B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to work harder to make the relationship work. If you really like your guy, let him know. And when the relationship hits some rough spots, take some down time, and especially stay away from his friends..
I think flirting is normal, but not with his friends..
2007-02-07 21:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do sorta the same thing so i know what you mean, There's no easy way to stop, just think about what you say b4 you say it and tell his bestfriend that you mean it and try and work thng's out with your boyfriend that it what an accident.
2007-02-07 22:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tizmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help....I feel bad for your boyfriend....you need to do that boy a favor and cut him loose. He deserves better. I don't believe for one minute that you really care for him...you knew better than to stir the pot with his best friend...but you did it anyhow...you love attention and now you got it...but at the expense of so many.
2007-02-07 22:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing that- You might not really be that into your BF.
Maybe time to move on and be free so you can do what you want without hurting someone.
2007-02-07 21:57:23 · answer #10 · answered by Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋