What are some pros and cons of adoption?

Question

I am writing an oratory speech on choosing adoption rather than abortion. I have some ideas, but I can't really organize them into actual thoughts. So any opinions or suggestions would be nice. Thanks!

Answer 1

Any young girl finding herself in a situation where she knows she can't keep the baby but needs to decide adoption or abortion has to ask herself some very tough questions.

The pro for adoption is of course, not killing an innocent baby because of the mistakes of its parents. There are many people out there who cannot have children and would be wonderful parents. Choosing adoption is choosing LIFE. Mothers who give up their children for adoption are an example of what real LOVE is all about. They put their own feelings aside for what is best for their child.

The only con side in adoption is the pain of having to let go of someone you love. But now-a-days, with open adoptions, the mother can look forward to a reunion if she wants one.

The pro side of abortion is zero. The mother will live with the guilt and shame the rest of her life, that is if she has the motherly instincts in the first place.

Answer 2

I was adopted and a pro is that I have had a great life full of experiences I know I would never have had otherwise. How many kids can say they spent their 21st b-day if Kenya, Africa? I have been around the world and used to show horses when I was younger. I have met some of my biological family and yes I am happy I was adopted.

A con to being adopted is that until you meet your biological family there is always a part of you that is lost. Like where did I come from, I do not look like any of my family.

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Answer 3

Pro's:
Gives the child a life that otherwise would end before birth
Gives those who adopt a chance to have a child they cannot bear

Cons:
The birth mother is forced to carry the child for the duration of the pregnancy, rather then ending the pregnancy early
The adopted child could have psychological "issues" stemming from being adopted

Although, who DOESN'T have psychological "issues" these days? lol - good luck. I work in foster care and adoptions and I'm about to adopt two little ones myself.

Answer 4

Pros and Cons of Adoption

Introduction:
This series of blogs will explore the pros and cons of various types of adoption: confidential/closed, semi-open and fully-disclosed/open; international; special needs and foster-to-adopt. Please email me your own pros and cons and I’ll add them to the list.

Part 1: Pros and Cons of Confidential or Closed Adoption

What is closed adoption?
A confidential adoption is one in which there is no contact between the birth and adoptive families. Confidential or closed adoption was commonplace from the 1950s through the early 1980s, when the concept of open adoption began gaining popularity. In a confidential adoption, the agency or adoption attorney serves as the mediator, and the adoptive family receives only non-identifying information (medical history, description of physical features, etc.) about the birth parents.

The child's safety is foremost
Confidential adoptions are an appropriate choice (and often, the only viable choice) when the birth parents are incarcerated, are drug addicted, are emotionally disturbed or have been abusive to the child. In these situations, the child has often been removed from his or her birth parents for safety reasons. The safety of the child should always be a parent’s foremost concern. If protecting a child from potentially harmful contact with his or her birth parents is a critical factor, a closed adoption is a viable choice.

Birth parents are out of the picture -- for better or for worse
Adoptive parents who choose a confidential adoption do so partly out of fear of involvement from potentially pushy birth parents. On the other hand, because they know nothing about the birth parents, the adoptive parents may have a hard time feeling empathy toward them as fellow human beings who grieve over the fact that their child is no longer in their life.

Or the adoptive parents may live in fear, always on the lookout for anyone who resembles their child, fearful that a birth parent will swoop in and steal the child. These fears are largely unfounded, as proven by the ever-increasing popularity of open adoption (see article on the pros and cons of open adoption for a different perspective).

In the past, when closed adoption was a birth parent's only option, people asserted that confidential adoption gave birth parents the opportunity to put the painful experience behind them and move on with their lives. Numerous studies show that birth parents do not ever forget the child they placed for adoption. Not knowing whether their child is healthy, happy and well-adjusted causes lifelong grief for many birth parents. Because of their lack of information about their child, birth parents are likely to second-guess their decision, forever wondering how their child is doing, whether their child hates them, or whether their child is anxious to meet them.

Some birth parents still do choose closed adoption because they do not want their pregnancy to be public knowledge and the confidentiality of closed adoption makes them feel more comfortable.

The child may be affected negatively
Adopted children seem to be the ones most negatively affected by confidential adoption. Thousands of adult adoptees born in the 1950s through ‘70s search for their birth parents, saying they feel incomplete, as if part of their identity is missing. Many adopted women search for their birth parents when they get pregnant for the first time, desiring to complete the “missing link” of their biological heritage and to obtain more complete medical information about potential health issues their own children may inherit.

http://adoptionblogs.typepad.com/adoption/2004/12/pros_and_cons_o.html

Answer 5

A PRO WOULD BE YOU DONT HAVE TO GO THRU LABOR ETC. AND A CON WOULD BE YOU MAY NOT KNOW OF THE HISTORY OF THE PARENTS , DISEASES,MENTAL RETARDEDNESS, NUMEROUS INHERITED PHYSICAL DEFORMITIES. ETC. BUT REMEMBER SOMETIMES ABORTION MIGHT BE BEST IF THE DOCTOR INFORMS OF LIFE THREATENING PROBLEMS. ETC IF ITS A CHOICE OF SAVING THE CHILD OR THE MOTHER. PERSONALLY ID SAVE THE MOTHER-- - - - AND LET THE RELIGIOUS STUFF TAKE A HIKE