When i met my fiance's family everything was going ok.
they always thought that between my fiance and i everything was going ok.
They did not know that everytime their son and i had an argument he would get really verbally abusive.i never said anything to them.
when we move to a new house i was tired of putting up with the way he treated me.
so couple of times i went out without coming home until 4am or later. His brother lives next door from us and he does not respect me. he said he was not gonna let me marry his brother that i was not good enough for his brother. Everybory is looking at me bad
the think that my fiance is the victim. I dont know what to do.
2007-02-07 13:33:37 · 10 answers · asked by surflinda21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It seems that you have a bigger problem than just your fiance's family...abuse is abuse. And it only gets worse with time. If he respects you. then they will in time. But if he doesn't, why would they.
2007-02-07 13:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lee R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go ahead and get married, his family will never forgive you. They will always be hateful towards you and if you have kids, it doesn't change. Just remember, you marry him, you marry his family. There will be a wall there. So just do what you want to do, only you will have to live with it. Sure you two could move away, but that does fix a problem. Also one thing you don't want to do is, for him to make a choice between his family and you. It doesn't work. Someone always get hurt and it's a hurt that never can be fixed.
Good Luck
2007-02-07 14:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by mrsangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you gonna stick with guy who treats you like that first of all?
If he treatin you bad I say you kick his a** to the curb and then kick his a**. But if you wanna prove that ur the victim here, next time you think ur gonna have an arguement record it. Get a voice recorded and hide it in your pocket then switch it on when he start yellin at you. Set up cameras or sumthin so you can show those deluded sons a b*tches whats up
2007-02-07 13:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by Luxurious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who is abusive? Have you told his brother why you leave till 4am? Move on.
2007-02-07 13:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them what kind of a person their son/brother is...tell them that you go out and stay out lateis so you don't have to put up with his abuse...I think you should leave altogether and let them all figure it out
2007-02-07 13:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should pack and run, that family put the D in dysfunctional
2007-02-07 13:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a frank and honest talk with him. Explain to him that his family is making you nervous, and he should plz talk to them. Its a relationship, based on love and valuexs!!!
2007-02-07 13:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what everyone thinks you know the truth. Run and run fast!
2007-02-07 13:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by texas mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation a few years ago. RUN!!!!
2007-02-07 14:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by eastcoastdebra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how annulment lawyers get rich ...
2007-02-11 01:35:55 · answer #10 · answered by cchinitaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋