i just wanna know how to start a conversation with girls i fancy and i already a ware of many obstacles?

Question

i just wanna clarify different obstacles that i feel i face begining with the very extreme shyness . iam BLACK single guy and i live in that white area in UK . i go to club almost every three days and i have to admit that iam seeking a nice girl to approach , however i sometimes dismiss the facts of having quite different culture which bring me some fear that some girls feel intimidated to be approached by other races . also the lack of confidence or i mean the way you start a conversation ,for instance 2 days a go i chatted that girl in the club and she first smiled then i had to begin the talk now ..so i started talking about the university ,study and i realised she got boared and eventually left :(. i just wanna say its so difficult to initiate a conversation with girl who assume that you are stranger and therefore you must reasure her by your talent in talk . i wish some girls have suggestions of how they like or think how most girls like to be approached in order to accept me

Answer 1

girls just want a guy to be comfartable about anything just talk to a girl its not that bad!!!
Y0U CAN D0 IT!!

Answer 2

I completely understand how you feel because I was and still am in the exactly same position as you are. I, too, have difficulties talk to girls. Everybody says it is not that hard yet for me I just don't now what to talk to. Say I start some kind of conversation with a girl doesn't react well, or try to keep the conversation going, then I am the one who has to think up of another topic to "talk about" before I am done with the one I am currently talking about. If I don't, then there would be these awkward moments when both of us are silent. At least, that's what I think.

Answer 3

You're not alone, most girls find it hard to talk to a boy they fancy. In my opinion, the best way to always start a convo is by saying hi with a smiley. If you both have bbm/facebook/twitter/something like that, comment on her status. As an essex girl I tend to say 'OMG same!' to a lot of people about their status, but I'm pretty sure not a lot of boys say that. Add a lot of smileys to show how your feeling, :D :) ;), but don't put a smiley like :* straight away, because you said you didn't want her to know how your feeling and that would be dumb... ;) Anyways, I kinda wandered of topic, but just say hi. Girls like chatting but dislike starting convos with boys because they're scared of saying something wrong. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

This is why you are shy. You see a girl that you would like to meet, and then you talk yourself out of it -- by imagining all sorts of potential problems & obstacles. Quit doing that! Take yourself out back and slap yourself silly until you stop that annoying habit that is ruining your love life.

A lack of confidence is a big turn off to many girls. No one wants a coward for a boyfriend.

Aren't you a nice person? Don't you make a good friend? Then if she turns you down, then SHE is the one who missed out on getting to know someone as wonderful as you. YOU are the prize, not her, and don't you forget it. If she turns you down, then she has done you the favor of freeing you up to talk to someone who does appreciate you.

Women like a sense of humor, so you can start a conversation with a small joke about something that she is doing, looking at, or wearing. Not only will this it make you seem fun, but it implies that you have some confidence because it implies that you are will to risk offending her (someone could potentially take the joke the wrong way, but this also serves as a screening function for you -- why date a prude with no sense of humor?).

Don't talk about the university, that's boring. Talk about something light and fun (women want to have fun on a date, not engage in a classroom lecture). If you cannot think about anything funny to say, then walk up to her and ask her opinion on something regarding male/female relations, or the latest famous person's scandal (tell her that you are trying to settle a bet with a friend or something).

And make sure that you make consistent eye contact with her while talking. if you are shy, and you tend to look down while talking, then she will think that you are looking at her boobs and get offended. If you are too nervous to maintain eye contact for long, then try to break eye contact by looking away horizontally as if you were looking for your friend, not by looking down. And don't slouch; it makes you look submissive and weak. Make a conscience effort to stand up straight.

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The best advice that I can think of is to forget for the moment that she is a hot girl. Think of her as a cool guy that you would like to be friends with, and talk to her accordingly. It is much easier to meet girls if you look at girls as people that you would like to meet, not as potential dates.

Answer 5

i hate being hit on when the guy doesnt know me it makes me feel threatened.my advice is dont act so confident and say your so hot.be direct and say i want to get to know you and act like a friend.im being honest everyday i get some guy saying yo sexy and it makes me a bit worried seeing as im just walking alone.be friendly not "smooth"

http://www.true-love-relationship-advice.com/girl-love.html

Answer 6

trust yrself and u will do it, there is no such called A WAY to approach, its chemistry only

Answer 7

I really dont understand this question...If they wont talk to you just offer them money to sleep with you dude!!! It worked for me with Ms Georgie....50p for a night of pleasure.

Tally HO!!!