The wedding in March 17th, but I've already gotten 2 checks from people for wedding gifts. Both are also attending the wedding according to the RSVP cards. Should I do a thank you now, then a thank you for attending the wedding as well? Or it is OK to wait until after the wedding & just send 1 note?
2007-02-07 13:21:15 · 22 answers · asked by layla983 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should do it whichever way you feel most comfortable. I don't see any problem with waiting, because ettiquette allows us up to six months to send thank you cards.
2007-02-07 13:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Send one NOW!!!!
Proper etiquette dictates that Thank You notes should be hand written on heavy card stock. You can pick up a pack of 50 TY notes at any office suppy store or card store for under $15. Gifts recieved before the wedding should have a TY sent with in 2 weeks. Gifts recieved at the wedding should have a TY sent no later than 2 months after the event. Six months is way to long, by then you'll have forgotten who gave you what and also gives the impression that you were putting off thanking people. While TY notes show your gratitude, they also let the person know that you have recieved the gift and that it hasn't been lost during transport.
When thanking someone for a gift always mention the gift in the note and how you plan on using it. If the gift is monetary, do not mention the amount of the gift, simply thank them for their generosity (and mention how you plan on spending it).
You do not have to send a second TY to them after the wedding unless they give you another gift. Thanking them for attending is a good gesture, but not something you must do.
2007-02-08 06:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning on cashing the check now...then send a Thank You now as well. After the wedding send another short note thanking them for attending the wedding, and maybe let the, know you purchased a cappuchinno maker or whatever with their wedding gift.
2007-02-07 22:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Layla, Just Jess is right. Gifts received before the wedding should be acknowledged within 2 weeks. If the person gives another gift at the wedding, a 2nd thank you note should be sent.
In this day and age, many people would wait, but if you want to do it the PROPER way, then send the notes now.
http://www.bridesclub.com/wedding-articles/wedding-etiquette-invitations.cfm
Best Wishes!
Polly
2007-02-08 20:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by Polly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother was all over this stuff - a regular Emily Post - so, I'll take a shot at this and say that it is perfectly acceptable to send a thank you note now acknowledging their generous gift and state that you look forward to seeing them at your wedding. I would see no reason to write them again after the wedding.
Have a very happy day on March 17th!
PS - Thank you notes should be sent no later than 6 WEEKS after the wedding.
2007-02-07 21:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by chequamegon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send the thank you now (unless you are not planning to cash the check until after the wedding). Thank them for the gift and let them know that you look forward to having share in your big day. One thank you is enough ...you will be speaking to them at the wedding. You will be overwhelmed with the thank you notes after the wedding...do what you can now.
2007-02-07 21:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by mups mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can wait until after the wedding if you want. You don't have to thank guests for coming to the wedding either. It's always nice to do so, but not necessary. Basically that's just filler for a thank you note. (think of it this way, would you send a thank you for someone coming to a party?) Personally, I would write out the thank yous now, and that's a couple less you have to do later. Best wishes on your big day.
2007-02-07 21:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to thank them after the wedding. A new thing that people are also doing now, is placing the thank you note on the table with the bomboniere or as part of the name card, so when you get back from honeymoon you cant forget anyone or forget to send them. Just an idea thought you may be interested in.
2007-02-07 21:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would send a thank you for the gift now, especially if you plan on cashing the checks. My suggestion, don't wait the 6 months allowed for thank yous from the wedding ceremony/gifts, I would do it within 8 weeks. Also, as you receive gifts, get a notebook and write who has given you what, thank you notes should be personal, and reflect thanking them for what they actually got you.
2007-02-08 14:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till after the wedding when you send all the thank yous out. Its best to wait and do it all at once, they wont be upset at all, usually it takes a long time before people even get thank yous in the first place. So its best to wait as well as if they end up getting you somthing else you can just add it to the same card.
2007-02-07 23:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do either, but it is certainly okay to send after the wedding, technically you supposedly have a year (too long in my opinion) from the wedding, but either way some people just send their gifts in advance just to make it easier on you
2007-02-07 21:25:39 · answer #11 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋