i have a selfish question, my bf wants to go to the army i don't want him to go, and i want to convince him to stay. he is just barely overcoming his depression and i don't think a place where he will see people being killed will make him feel any better. he changes his mind a lot one minute he wants to have a regular job, then he wants to go to school, then he wants to go to the army,the next minute he wants to move in with me. i know that it's good to have goals and all, but he won't be able to change his mind that much in the army. i really don't think that he is too stable right now now due to his depression. he has no job i think he sees it as an easy way out to join. i know it's selfish wanting to keep him near me, but i want some advise to make him stay.
2007-02-07 13:00:05 · 7 answers · asked by kimmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not trying to have a baby with him. his sis does not want him to go either. he says that no one will change him mind but don't believe him since he changes his mind every week. he is also going to talk to a recuiter next weds. there probaly no chance that he will scare him out of it .
2007-02-07 13:24:54 · update #1
Let him go, then you can cheat on him while he is deployed. Better yet you can get married, get all of his pay while he is deployed and still cheat on him. Believe me, Army is the best for him.
2007-02-07 13:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Barker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise against conception, and focus more on his stability to serve his country. I feel your pain, but girl, you've got to let him go ! You are mistaken that you can hold him back by getting pregnant! Your best bet is to encourage him, and watch him grow...beyond your wildest dream. Do not discourage him, but encourage him, if you truly love him. This is coming from a mother who loves her son, given his choices, and a Drill Sargent's daughter, during Viet-Nam. Let him go, Hon! If it is meant to be he will come back to you. If you should have any doubts about this, pray, pray, pray! This is the best advice that I can give you during this difficult time.
2007-02-07 21:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds harsh, but just tell him if he goes to the army and dies then it would cause you and his family to be very very sad, and if you already have/ he still wants to after you do then... never mind. Not here to be mean to your boyfriend... But just tell him that all dramitc like and... crying might help.
2007-02-07 21:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by x_matt_blackhole_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isnt selfish. atleast not to me!
I think you should really tell him all of your thoughts about it. And i mean all of them or your gonna regret not saying something. Tell him how worried you are and stuff like that.
But also know that if it is something he wants to do, you have to let him.
2007-02-07 21:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by myusedromance13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ultimately its his decision to make, but if he loves you and knows the consequences of being far away from you he will stay. If not then you need to have a serious talk with him
2007-02-07 21:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by LB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a counsellor should be able to help you. They will sort his feelings out about his goals..and then you guys can go from there!
Good Luck
2007-02-07 21:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by HAPPY <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel like tell him that he is barley overcoming depression and you dont think the place ( war) were he will see people killed will make him feel better!!!!
2007-02-07 21:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by James Dean Girl <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋