He asked me and I told him yes,but I dont have the ring
2007-02-07 12:59:34 · 9 answers · asked by KIM-ME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't blame you for wondering. It's not a question of being greedy. It's a question of his commitment. He doesn't need to get you a $1,000 ring. A $200 one would work so long as there is a ring! It shows the world (and most importantly - you) that he's dedicated to you and your marriage.
Did he mention a ring when he asked? Did he say that he would give you one later on? I'd bring it up after V-day...you've already waited 6 months so what's another week or two?
If he says that he can't afford a ring, tell him that any ring will do because what really counts is the symbolism behind it - not how big the price tag was.
Often times stones other than diamonds are no less rare (the majority of diamonds are held by a very few people to drive up the prices) but they are much cheaper. You can get a sapphire ring or other stone for around $200. Also, consider the Irish engagement/wedding ring: the claddagh. This one does double duty (you wear it on your left hand with the heart facing towards you if you're married and on your left hand with the heart facing away from you if you're engaged), so there's no need to buy an engagement and wedding ring separately. The ring stands for love, loyalty, and friendship and is meant to be passed down to future generations. You can get one from Ireland (where the claddagh ring originated) from this Irish jeweler: www.allcladdagh.com.
2007-02-07 13:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell you why he didn't have a ring? Did he say anything about when you would get a ring ... or if you'd get a ring? Are you in the process of planning your wedding right now, regardless of the fact that you don't have a ring? Basically, a proposal of marriage and the acceptance of that proposal is an oral contract and you don't NEED a ring. A ring is traditional though and most women want one. If it really means a lot to you to have one, you should talk to him about it. Sometimes guys want their fiancees to pick out the ring themselves and maybe that's what he's waiting for.
2007-02-07 21:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would really be worried that he didn't give it to me the day he asked me. Asking someone to marrying them is something serious you think about and plan. I know this because my fiancee told me everything he went through. shopping for the ring looking for it. so if you dont have a ring yet or if you dont get one by next wednesday. I would really ask him like two days after valentines day. Good Luck
2007-02-07 23:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all-- how serious is your relationship with this guy? Secondly, how serious is this guy about marriage?
If this is the real thing, than a ring on hand shouldn't matter-- Good things come in time, as they say.
Just ask him and talk about this with him. If he's financially unstable, you should understand (Diamond rings are $$$). Communication is key for a healthy and long-lasting relationship.
2007-02-07 21:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes saving for one, and he feels like he wants to get you the best one somthing that will blow you away. He probably doesnt have the money right now but is well on his way. Give it a year and I am sure it will be well worth the wait. He will get you one, and if you still havent got one in a year, than take him into ring stores and tell him what you like, give him hints like that, and than wait for about four months still nothing, than you need to ask him what the heck is going on!
2007-02-07 23:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never got a ring at all until my wedding day. An engagement ring isn't necessary to be engaged. It is only a symbol. A very pretty symbol, but a symbol none the less.
Set the date and start planning the wedding.
2007-02-07 23:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That ring should have been on your finger when he popped the question. Girl I would be saying something. After Val. day and still no ring say something like are you really serious about us getting married. he'll say yea baby do doubt--you say well I didnt know since I don't have a ring on my finger to prove it to the world.
2007-02-07 21:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Extra Blue Note 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait until after Valentine's Day ( just in case he plans to give it to you then) and then straight up ask him! If you can't be open with the guy you want to marry then you are in for a rough marriage.
2007-02-07 21:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Chanti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is the ring that important????
I know its the "traditional" thing to do but maybe he truly loves you, wants to share his life with you but can't afford a ring. Would it change the way you feel about him??
Hey I love diamonds just as much as the next person but watch the new movie blood diamonds it may change your mind....
2007-02-07 21:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by princessdawn1982 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋