I broke up with someone because they were a womanizer..three weeks later he is seeing someone else..is being cheap on child support. (though he can afford booze and dates) wont give up the apartment for my daughter and I to live in though it is rent free as a resident manager position..and I hate him so much that I want to pick a fight with im to hurt him every time we talk..how do I get this guy out of my personal life? How do I make him sorry he left me and was cheap? How do I not scream and yell and call him names whenever I talk to him? What my real question is though is how do I act with dignity and poise to make him think twice about his horrible behavior?
2007-02-07 12:56:49 · 6 answers · asked by jennyve25 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about it, if he cared about his horrible behavior, how would that change him? I have lived with this fro twenty years now trying to raise my daughter alone with an ex from Hell. IF he here a gentleman, he wouldn't have treated you badly. Take the attention off him and pour it into yourself and your child(ren). Revenge, meanness and anger are not a place to create warmth and security for your family. Then, IF he takes notice, show him kindness and grace by acknowledging repentance, but DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK. Move on honey and love your kids that is what really matters. Oh, and screaming only makes you (and me) look bad and calling your ex bad names in front of your child will only hurt them too.
2007-02-07 13:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by lori47noc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him as often as possible, try to get as much distance from him if you can, and forget the SOB exists when you do. That's about the best you can do, outside of going Lorena Bobbitt on him, and that's even worse because you'll be risking not only your future, but your daughter's. So, keep a stiff upper lip; and, if the opportunity comes along, bail out and leave him behind. Okay?
2007-02-07 21:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is human to be hurt especially by someone you cared for. Now you are asking how you get revenge or make them feel as bad as you do. The answer is you can't. All you can do is act above it, be sweet but firm with your dealing with him. The best revenge is to live well. Get on with your life, meet someone else, take him to court if he doesn't pay child support, and try to ignore what he does. Don't lower youself to his level.
2007-02-07 21:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really wan't to show how he hurt you.
Pay him no mind. Let him see you talking to others. Don't ever look in his direction. Through
subtle means show him you have moved on.
The more he see how together you are, the more
he will fall apart. I think you are more important
than booze. Let someone viable hold you in his arms, while you have a viable soulmate he will have the booze to cling to. He made his choice,
now make yours to move on and have no regrets.
2007-02-07 21:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by saa932003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to "un-ring" a bell, ya know? The good news is that by asking this question you know what you've been doing wrong. Now just do the opposite.
2007-02-07 21:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you want to kill him and then claim you were ' abused'.
2007-02-07 21:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Barker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋