I'm inlove with my ex boyfriend, and i hav tried everything to stop liking him. I hav tried to lik my best guy friend but i just couldn't, because i new that i liked my ex. It has been almost 3 months! i mean im soo pathetic. me and my ex hav been through a lot...i had my first kiss....we hav cuddled on my then 1 occasion...he bought me chocolate....and when we went out....we could talk about anything. But then 2 weeks before he dumped me his grandfather died so he was out of school for a week and then the next week i was sick for 2 days and the day i come back he dumps me...saying that we should just be friends...I really need help!
2007-02-07 12:41:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TIME TIME TIME !!!!!!! REALLY!!! Remembering the bad stuff always helps me. there was a reason u guys broke up!!!!
2007-02-07 12:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by kilrblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem before and it's totally natural, especially since the breakup was so unexpected. The thing that I've learned to do is to stop thinking about him. Which is difficult at first because when you like someone, or they've hurt you, you tend to obsess over them.
So every time you catch yourself thinking about him, whether it's good memories or bad just stop. As soon as his face pops up in your mind, or his name or whatever it is that reminds you of him just stop yourself immediately and start thinking about something else. Trying to replace with someone else by liking them isn't going to work. So don't think about someone else, just think about how you need a manicure, or how you want some food, or how great your hair is, and eventually your mind will go somewhere else.
The 1st week you're going to think about him, but make the commitment to not go there, instead make an effort to be happy on your own. But still have distractions around you, like hanging out with your family or reading a magazine to help get your mind off of him. After the first 2 wks it gets so much easier and you won't have to make distractions because you won't think about him as much, and when you do you won't have such an emotional reaction, so it won't be painful or sad to think about him when you do. Eventually you'll train yourself so well that after a couple of months you will be in much more at peace with this.
And who knows you might get back together, for some reason guys can smell when you want them sooo much, and they run away, but then when you could care less they start wanting you! But in the meantime work on you, so that if you do get back with him, or you get into another relationship, you'll be much more calm and not get so hurt if another breakup occurs. Good luck,, and you are not pathetic, it happens to all of us.
2007-02-07 12:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I'm going through the same thing right now that you are going through. I'm also still in love with my ex-boyfriend. I've tried to like other guys and move on with my life but it's not been able to happen. i love him with all my heart. it's been months since we have broken up. everyday i hope that he comes back to me realizing that he loves me and that we are mean't to be together. my advice to you is give it some time the feelings may go away. but if it's real and true. one day he will come back to realizing that he loves you and he should have never let you go. you just haft to be patient. have you tried telling him that you are still in love with him. that might also help with your feelings. by getting them out and telling him that you are still in love with him. you never know he may still be in love with you and be scared to tell you because he's scared you won't return the feelings. so take a stand and tell him that you love him still. i hope this helps you.
2007-02-07 13:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but there is a possibility you won't ever get over him. i broke up with a guy like 2 years ago, and i was in love with him. we went out for a long time. i'm still in love with him. i've even gone out with another guy since then. but the longing in my heart for my ex bf is always there. he hurt so bad when we were going out sometimes, too. yet, i still love him. you either need to tell him or try to figure out a way you can move past him.
2007-02-07 12:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in love with some other guys. God made more than one, ya know? Get in the game and have some fun. No one guy should have that much control of our mind. That's how guys play the game. Learn from the best.
2007-02-07 12:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off hun, give it time he is going through some things, it is not easy loosing family to death. but be friends with him and be there 4 him. you guys most likly will get back together. and dont push together other relationships nor dont push him back into one, its not a good thing, and its not a healthy mind state for either of you
2007-02-07 12:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Angelica lane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know how you feel and the truth is you will probubbly never get over him because it's been a year since me and my boyfriend broke up and i still love him sorry if i didn't help!!!!!!!!
2007-02-07 12:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get over it in time. just keep busy. find another man.
2007-02-07 12:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by intelligent80000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋