How can I approach this to my parents??

Question

that im gay and that I want im not happy who I am and I want to be the opposite gender. I would appreciate answers from parents that experienced this first hand, but anyone is allowed to answer. An any places I can go to get help?? This will be much appreciated. Thanks for the help everyone! :)

p.s. Im a boy and im 16

Right now I'm a boy that likes other boys and has feelings for them, but I feel that I'm in the right body and want to change and become the opposite sex.

Answer 1

This is a really hard question to answer. I truly do hope that your parents understand. If I were you, I would sit down with my parents, and before you tell them - tell them how important this is to you. And how you really want them to understand. Parents have a tremendous amount of love for their children, I think if you make it clear to them that you really want their understanding, and support they will understand. Good luck.
PS - you may be able to find some websites giving advice for this situation.

try these-----
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/30172/advice_on_coming_out_to_your_parents.html

http://www.manpg.co.uk/tell_parents.htm

Answer 2

Honey this is a very delicate question, you did not mention your age and not that is important but I really suggest you take the time to talk to your parents (I am praying that you have a wonderful relationship with them) It may be very scary and very awkward at first but I think that the love of a mother is unmeasurable and I am sure that before you try doing something drastic as changing the way you look you first have to deal with the fact that you are inclined to other choices that doesn't make you a bad person you are still who you are and you are still a good kid..
Maybe if you can find some help Thur a counselor that could help you address this with your family...If not then I think you should talk openly with them.
I wish you the best of luck and if anything helps I have a nephew who is gay and we noticed since he was young but as all families some of us were on denial until he found the strenght which was about when he was about 23 totally independent..(meaning working and all) and then he told us..my reaction...I was fine with it I love him more now that I know he can feel free to chose and do as he feels correct and his spirit and soul is free from this burden that is to hide something so unique...
take care love and best of luck to you,
K.

Answer 3

It is 2007, chances are your parents may already know. If my son came to me and told me I would still love him as much as I did before. I know it is scary , but you will face so many things that are and you will have to face in your life, it is just the way it is. Your goAL is to be as happy as you can be , and obviously keeping a secret this important from your parents is really bothering you. So get it off your chest. One suggestion , before you do this talk to your school psychologist about it to get some ideas from a professional and what to expect , they are experts and very helpful on these type of things, Listen good luck I am sure it will all work out fine, There is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, no matter what ignorant people may think. Again I hope and i am sure it will al work out for you.

Answer 4

The longer you deny your true self, the more misery you will be in, the more lies you will tell, and the more depressed you will become. I am sure you are scared. I would do some research, maybe transgender support groups, gay rights groups, etc., Remember one thing, your parents should love you no matter what your sexual preference is. Take the first step in being honest with yourself, if you can get to "that place" and believe in yourself, then "opinions of others" should be secondary. Talk to your parents, you may find that no matter what their reaction is, it will be very "freeing" for you. Good luck, and be happy....you only have one life to live!

Answer 5

There has been a lot of people coming out and discussing this same issue. My advice to you would be maybe speak with a counselor or a teacher at school whom you trust. Maybe you and your parents as well as the teacher/guidance counselor could all sit down together and discuss the issue. I would also maybe suggest just discussing the homosexuality issue first and let that soak in and then discuss your, for a lack of better words, gender identity crisis. It may be difficult at first but you will for sure have a weight lifted off your shoulders. Instead of wondering what their reaction will be, you will know. I'm sure they will love you just the same and accept your sexuality. I wish you the best of luck and admire your courage!

Answer 6

[on friends accout]

i'm gay and When I told my parents I sat them both down and said "Look, I know that I'm you're only son,, but I like boys, I'm gay" they were like ok

but it was better ff in the end, and if you want to become a girl then That's great!

Right, halle [my friend who's account this is] says that she'll support you even if she doesn't know you! GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

You say you want to be the opposite gender -- sounds to me like you are more transsexual than gay.

Have you always felt that you were born the wrong gender, or is this something you recently discovered about yourself?

Answer 8

it's scary at any age to "come out" especially to your parents...my dad was fine with it but my mom freaked out...in the end their reactions weren't what really mattered...i knew who i was and became a happier person for not denying myself (to anyone) take then out to a restaurant and tell them in public where they can't over-react without having time to think about it. As far a surgery...go with your heart...only you know who you are...I AM PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!!!! Jenn

Answer 9

you are probably just going through a phase,no one is naturally ment to be gay or lesbian. 1st you are way too young to be focusing on sexual relations or feelings.